Adoptive parents, what is the most valuable?

Question

thing you have learned from adult adoptees?

Answer 1

I have learned to own and accept that I will be a source of my child's justified anger, pain, and fear, along with the other people who are involved in the adoption.  I've learned that I am not a replacement for a biological family.  I've also learned that I can handle these things, and take care of my own feelings, so that I can support my child in taking care of his/her feelings.  And I've learned that this is what I WANT to do.

Answer 2

That every experience is different, and that I shouldn't use online forums loaded with people pushing their own agendas for advice.

Answer 3

That closed adoption sucks for many adoptees and confirms that my daughter's open adoption was the best choice for her.

Answer 4

From my mother:  It's okay to love two moms and two dads.