Adult advice please?

Question

Okay i am 20 yrs old and hung out with same small group(4-6) of friends since High school anyway my group of friends are way more out going than me to an extreme...we currently are planning to travel abroad to europe.My concern is that sometimes they have a tendency to overdrink a lot, push the limmits of the laws of decenty in public behavior and make less than good choices in general not just with guys.I am the quiet/shy one who does not drink much only really socially and certainly not enough to get wasted but who ends up babbysitting everyone...Anyway i am just starting to come out of my shell when it comes to socializing because i have always been akward at dressing my 5 ft6 , 32 a cup, and only 110 pounds body. But my friends expect me to be the one to keep everything and everyone in check.Put it this way i had to bail 3 of them out of jail while spring breaking in mexico! and on 3 sperate occasions while here in the states.They already have plans to wear n**i outfits in germany as a joke or to something equally dumb else where and im afraid though i want no part in it we could all get in trouble! I really want to go in 2 weeks to europe but how do i balance this?

Answer 1

Sweety, you are obviously way out of their league in maturity and the friction you are experiencing is there for a good reason - which is to show you to find a new group of friends.

You guys aren't in high school anymore you are in the real world with real world consequences that can destroy your young life.

Take it as a blessing that nothing has happened to ruin your life yet.  

Don't take the trip.  Make a clean break from them and get involved in activies that include more mature individuals.

Best of luck.

Answer 2

Hon, you have to separate yourself IMMEDIATELY from this group, even though it means you'll miss out on the trip to Europe.

The n**i outfits will not be funny, but will get them arrested, and it will cause you a lot of headaches as well.  The situation is much different in Europe than itis in Mexico, and you may not be able to get your friends out of their jam, and you may have problems  yourself.

These people aren't really your "friends", by the way, as they are using you to keep them out of trouble.  And you're right, your reputation will be seriously affected.

It's time to say "bye bye" to these people and create a new social circle of people who are crazy in the best way possible.  

good luck!

Answer 3

You need new friends, or to tell them you aren't their babysitter and you refuse to 'watch them'.

That n**i 'joke' they are planning is wrong, very very wrong and WILL get them in trouble if not shot.

Tell them to grow up, they do not want to go to jail in a foreign country, it could end really bad for them.

Answer 4

I would totally avoid their antics in Europe. They obviously think everyone loves Americans and all the stupid c**p they do but they are terribly mistaken. I would set them all down and tell them that you guys are going to a different country, that the rules and laws are different with different consequences and the c**p they have done here in the states could get them in serious trouble with no escape over there. With that said, I would also tell them that you have no intentions of bailing them out of jail at any time during the trip, so if the plan to get locked up, they can spend the required time there too.

It really sounds like you need to use this trip as a last hurrah and when you get back start distancing yourself and find some friends who want to hang out in the balcony not the basement!

Good luck!

Answer 5

These friends are not good company for you. I understand that it is fun for you to be around and watch their antics while keeping your cool, and also for you to feel useful when you babysit them. But beyond that, it seems that you don't have too much in common. A trip to Europe can be interesting as well as fun - but only if you have the right company and not people you need to feel ashamed of or you get into trouble with the law.

My advice is to cancel the trip (if still possible) or at least to keep your distance from these girls.

Answer 6

If I were you, I'd stay home.

n**i outfits in Germany? Are they that ignorant and immature?? What do they want to get themselves killed or something???  They will most likely at least get the tar beat out of them.  Not a good thing.

If you are smart, you'd stay home.  Let them go on their international tirade.  Good friends or not, I wouldn't want anything to do with that.

If you end up going, good luck to you.  You're sure going to need it.

P.S.

Have you thought about perhaps trying to find some new, more mature and SERIOUS friends to hang with??

That group sounds like an accident waiting to happen.

Answer 7

Well..does not sound like you will have a very good time with this group of friends..you need new friends that you won't have to do all the babysitting. I know you said you are shy but is it really worth hanging out with them when your reputation is on the line You are fortunate that you yourself haven't already wounded up in jail. The n**i outfits are not funny either and you are right probably will get them in big trouble.Balance it by getting new friends,sounds like they are using you.

Answer 8

Honey, I really think you need to get new friends.  Even if you don't act like them people will assume you do ~ bc why else would you be there friends?  

Guilt by associtation!