Second time we bumped into this kid. Evan (8) was at the playground, I was at my peanut's t-ball practice in the adjacent field. This kid's just got Evan's number and bullies him. Yesterday Evan touched his skateboard. He should not have. The kid walks up, pushes Evan with his stomach and says “Don’t touch my skateboard again.â€Â
After practice I confronted the kid. I said that Evan shouldn’t have touched his skateboard and that it won’t happen again. I added, “You came close to threatening him, and I would like you to make sure this doesn’t happen again.†The kid said okay. I was very nice, never raised my voice. The kid’s response was with a little bit of an attitude, mostly for the benefit of his friends. I get that. I was satisfied enough that he nearly p’d his pants.
I know there's a right and wrong time to intervene, and sometimes it's more appropriate to let them sort it out. I did think long and hard about stepping up, but the kid was twice Evan's size (literally), he’s huge. He’s also older, by about 2 years.
My question is, what can I expect Evan to encounter next week? The kid was literally shaking in his shoes. So maybe nothing? Maybe “Did you Mommy come to fight your battles againâ€� What’s Evan’s best response? He could give a sassy response, but is he better off sticking out his hand for a shake and saying sorry about the skateboard? Or does that only work in the movies? I’m not looking for a great comeback, I’m looking for the best way to put this to bed. I don’t think I’m dealing with a bad kid. He looked fresh, not bad. I think I’m dealing with someone who is used to using his size to get what he thinks is respect.
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