Advice: How to come out to cousin?

Question

Recently I have been questioning my sexuality and lately my sexual orientation has really been on my mind. I want to talk to someone about my feelings and the person I have in mind is my cousin. The thing is I don't really know how I should go about it. I have never told anyone in my family before about these issues and me and her have talked about personal things before but nothing like this. What if she doesn't accept me? She thinks that I like guys but that is not all I am! It bothers me that I am hiding a part of myself from her. She is coming to visit this weekend and I she is thinking about taking me out to lunch. I am so excited but if she asks about guys I really just want to tell the truth. She is in her mid 30's and lives far away so this is like my only choice to tell her face to face. If I tell her it would be such a weight lifted off my shoulders. So like if she calls me in the future we can be open about that. I'm also afraid that she will deny it and say that it is just a phase. It will really hurt me if she says that because it will make me question if she loves me for being me. Like would she accept me no matter what I am?

P.S. Just to make sure you know that I am not a troll... I have asked this question before but I did not get a whole lot of answers and there have been some developments. I.E. seeing her this weekend

Answer 1

The best advice I can give you is don't mix words. Tell her what you know and let her tell you what she thinks and move on. that is the best you can do, be honest.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

I think that it would be good for you to talk to someone about it. If you believe you can trust your cousin and talk to her, than just talk. Things won't always turn out like you hope, but it might be better than you plan. You could ask a random question like, " How would you respond if your friends told you that she isn't straight?" See how she responds and then if she will be fine with it, then tell her. If not just change the subject.  

Answer 3

I was once in that same position, I love my cousin we are as close as best friends even though she lives far away, so one day I went visiting and in our night talk that we always have, btw an uncomfortable silence I just said it "I like girls" she stare for a sec and then said "for some weird reason was expecting this" the next is history she is completely fine with it and nothing change btw us

Answer 4

If you really want to tell her & you hate keeping something from her, I believe you should talk to her about your situation. If she doesn't accept your feelings you will know that your faith in her was unjustified.It should be better for her to know the whole story & it should be better that you know whether or not she is the one for you to talk to. "LOL"

Answer 5

DONT tell her how you feel she mite not even talk to you if you tell her. you need help not in a crazee way.thats all i can say

GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

There are no guarantees any particular person is going to 'accept' you...each and every person is different...  It's apparent that your cousin is someone who is 'important' to you for whatever reason, but again, that is no guarantee that she will accept what you have to share with her.  There is also no guarantee she won't.  As you've not given your age, it's difficult to say 'just what' to say to her.  If you are in your teens it's quite a bit different than if you're in your twenties...  If you are in your teens, I would advise you to think seriously about telling anyone as you 'may be' in puberty and your sexual orientation may not be 'set' yet...also, if you tell her and she doesn't take it well, you may be ostracized from your family, if and when she tells them...  I would suggest you complete your college, find a job and your own place before you say anything...  Personally, I don't see 'the need' to tell anyone anything about your personal, private self...dating in your teens is quite different than when you start dating 'seriously' (preferably some time in your twenties...so that you're mature enough to make rational decisions), and it will become obvious soon enough what your orientation is when you start bringing your 'preferred' people around...  If she does accept you, it's a wonderful thing, but there is no guarantees that anyone else she tells will feel the same way...  You really should know there's only one person who should 'accept' you as you are...and, that's yourself...everyone else is secondary...