Advice: What happened in this situation?

Question

I worked with this girl, Heather. We didn't like e/o at first but became friends after time. She found out I was pregnant and her being known as a big mouth, kept my secret until I left for maternity leave. We became great friends and I made her the Godmother.

After the birth, everything was okay and she was so excited about being the Godmother. Then tension occurred around her and my fiancé. He took my spot at my job and became mgr. I went to visit my sister in Florida. I told him to invite his sister to stay with him so he wouldn't be lonely.

While I was in Florida, my fiancé called and told me that Heather was sending him text msgs stating that she was going to tell me that he had girls over spending the night with him. His sister was over there and she wanted a friend, Amber over but Heather insisted to my fiancé that he was cheating. She sent him around 15 threatening text msgs to him and Amber (I saw them) One even saying that she was going to tell me as soon as I got home.

Afterwards, Heather told everyone at work about the incident and when I arrived back to Arizona, she acted as if nothing happened. She called me and we did our normal routine. In fact, I had to approach her several days later about it and she told me she wasn’t worried about it anymore. The following day, she went to Amber’s job and harassed her. The girl went to the back while Heather yelled at her to “come out and talk”. They almost called the police on Heather. My fiancé’ called Heather after that and told her she was not the Godmother anymore. I asked her about the incident and she told me she was just getting something from that store at night and it was a coincidence. I told heather that I knew she was harassing Amber and her story changed to, “I was wrong.” I told Heather to discuss the issue with my fiancé b/c some apologies needed to happen before we could talk about her being the God mother again.

It has been over six months now and I haven’t heard from her since. What happened? I thought I was over it but for some reason, this situation keeps running back and forth in my mind. I really believe in loyalty in friendship, so I’m asking others outside of the circle, What happened?

Answer 1

So what are you prepared to do to finalize this situation.  You either call Heather and ask her if she's prepared to understand she was over reacting and an apology to your bf and his sister is in order.  If you don't want the conversation, then email your former GF that she's history.  Either way you've still got to worry that a stalker like her could reverb on your family.  What ever you do you need to take it really really easy.

Answer 2

She's a b%$ch

Answer 3

Here's what happened: Heather turned out to be a very unstable and disturbed individual. For some reason, her craziness was triggered by Amber. So she started acting out and was basically a psycho. You are mistaken in thinking an apology would help, or that she can be normal. She can't--she has psychiatric problems. It's best if she never sees your child again for that reason. Don't ever contact her or encourage her to return to your lives.