Advice against marrying beautiful women?

Question

as-salaam alaikum

Many people especially brothers place beauty as an important factor in marriage -however here are some things to consider and advice AGAINST marrying a very beautiful girl:

1. The Prophet (saw) said beware a beautiful girl brought up in a bad environment

2 Beauty makes people vain and arrogant since they are always being praised -so many beautiful sisters are very self centered and egotistical

3. Very beautiful sisters may be less devoted to heir husbands since they know whenever he does something they dont like they can divorce and have lots of men after them

4. Theyre usually not too smart as they can get by life on their looks without having to study or work or think too hard

5. Other men approach them making it very hard for their husbands who needs eyes in the back of the head

Its important to find your spouse attractivetive but DONT marry very beautifuliful women -from experience they are more trouble then they are worth

There is a song which is a wise song

"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life

Never make a pretty woman your wife"

Any comments/additions?

Answer 1

sorry but that's insane.. it sounds to me like the man who thinks that is not very confident about himself and lacks self esteem. try appreciating and loving yourself more and you don't have to be so threatened, its not all about looks.

Answer 2

There are women's who are pretty from the outside and the inside! Allah is wise and he knows who should be pretty and who shouldn't, u can also find a girl that not pretty from the outside but is from the inside so don't generalize!

Answer 3

Sorry think that's JUST a stereotype there. Some ugly women I'm sure won't make good wives either and there are very humble beautiful women out there.  

Answer 4

not all women are like that there are some that think they are not pretty and are the best women  you want to meet

Answer 5

its not their fault if they're hot

stop hating.

Answer 6

Just love Allah more than anything else.

Allah is the Most Beautiful.

Lady Fatima (as) is the most beautiful lady in these Universes.

Answer 7

Beauty always comes with a price, and fades within time.

A marriage should never be based on materialism.

Answer 8

dosent it help in american society to be somewhat attracted to your mate? i think a more appropriate sentence would be

dont marry a high maintenance insecure girl. i am a beautiful woman, and i am in no way a threat to my husband.

there are physically unnatractive girls who are just as (if not more)guilty of the above mentioned "crimes".

its the ugly girls, who are so consumed with chasing the pretty girls lifestyle, who cause all the drama.

Answer 9

Sounds ignorant and cultureless to me.  Sweeping generalizations are never accurate, so you better wise up.

Answer 10

I think it's wrong to generalize. I know many very pretty girls who have a beautiful heart and are intellegent too.

But i do agree with you to a certain extent, i think we should go for personality more. A person who is very good looking, man or women, can be very full of themselves, it causes problems, insecurity and loss of trust in a relationship. Always marry someone who is the same attractiveness as you, because when they're more attractive, they get on their high horses and thats when problems begin.

I think you naturally become attracted to people through their personalities. If you have an average looking man/women with a great personality, you will start to think they are better looking than they really are because you're attracted to them by their heart. Those are the best relationships.

Answer 11

Don't marry a person that is very physically attractive. My husband is really really handsome and women stare and flirt with him all the TIME and it makes me so MAD! Not only that he has an EGO the size of Jupiter! Marry a pious not so good looking person, life will be easier!

Answer 12

No not all beautiful women are like that.

There are many self centered women.

There are many sweet and kind women.

just women in general

By the way, I think the song is funny :)

Answer 13

beauty is always in the eyes of the beholder. beauty is ok as long as she is humble. every woman has something to offer so only you are the judge of what is best for you. vanity IS a sin but not all beautifull people are vain if they are beautifull on the inside and out both.

Answer 14

No, no need for rumors or hearsay. The key is to find a wife who albeit her beauty has great character and values her character more than her beauty. Remember character is directly related to Faith [Imaan].

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her wealth, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character so that you may prosper."

Answer 15

All the men that I like, other people think they're ugly.

For example, I think Michael Jackson and Sanjaya are awesome and other people don't like them simply because of they way they look. See, everyone is so vain these days.

Its a miracle to find one person who doesn't judge other people by their looks.

Answer 16

Any sweeping generalizations are bigoted and do no justice to the people targeted.  It is like saying that all blondes' are dumb or every bearded man is a terrorist or extremist.

I meet good looking and no so good looking young men and women who are articulate and intelligent.  What does the color of their skin, the features on their faces or the color of their hair have to do with the personality or character?

Answer 17

Could you get anymore insecure or is possibly jelousy of another man who is marrying a beautiful women, or is it even you that you are possibly upset that you can't find a beautiful wife for yourself ?!! All you spouted are rediculous stereotypes.

If the women has good morals and comes from a pious home, whether she is beautiful or not she will stand by her husband and guard herself.

1. The Prophet (saw) said beware a beautiful girl brought up in a bad environment

********BAD ENVIRONMENT ARE THE KEY WORDS.

2 Beauty makes people vain and arrogant since they are always being praised

********THE PROPHET (PBUH) USTO STAND IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR AND PRAISE ALLAH (SWT) FOR MAKING HIM HANDSOM. (Sahih al Bukhari and Sahih Muslim)

3. Very beautiful sisters may be less devoted to heir husbands since they know whenever he does something they dont like they can divorce and have lots of men after them.

*********DEVOTION HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEAUTY, IT HAS DO WITH HER LOVE FOR HER HUSBAND AND HOW WELL HE TREATS HER.

4. Theyre usually not too smart as they can get by life on their looks without having to study or work or think too hard.

**********THAT IS THE MOST REDICULOUS THING I HAVE EVER HEARD. Not to toot my horn, but I must to drive home this point--- I consider myself a very attractive individual and I have 3 degrees--Psychology, Biology, and Religious Studies..............My parents are very attractive as well and they are highly educated and extremely devoted to each other. And my family and I are devoted servants of Allah (swt). Allah (swt) is the One who has blessed us with such attributes and we are nothing but greatful for His blessings on us.

5. Other men approach them making it very hard for their husbands who needs eyes in the back of the head.

***********CLEARLY IF YOU NEED EYES IN THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD, YOU HAVE NOT MARRIED THE RIGHT WOMEN. A SECURE MAN WHO KNOWS HIS WIFE WELL DOES NOT NEED TWO EYES IN THE BACK OF HIS HEAD.

ALL IN ALL, NO WOMEN WANTS A MAN WHO FEELS LIKE HE HAS TO WATCH HER EVERY MOVE....THAT IS LACK OF TRUST.

Everything in this world has a hidden meaning. From the color of your clothes, to the movement of each part of your body, to everything you see and look upon, to the words you speak, to the food you eat...EACH has a meaning and significance to your end and is part of your judgment. Think of it as a hidden/secret book being written as you go along in your life and will be revealed to you when your veil is lifted at the time of your death. Those with wisdom are able to understand the signs of Allah (swt). When our veils are removed from us we will be able to see what was the meaning of everything we had, did, said, wore, and chose, etc in this world.

Uglyness is an accumulations of misdeeds of our ancestors (our parents, grandparents, great grand parents, etc)

I wouldn't want to pass that to my children...so I will look for the most beautiful man I can find! :o)

Salaam!

edit: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her wealth, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character so that you may prosper."

@ Desert Fox-awesome...I was just looking for that hadith!

Answer 18

This might be true to SOME women, but not all. There ARE beautiful women in this world who are beautiful from the inside too. It's just hard to find them. Not all beautiful women are like that.

It's like finding a good friend. It's really hard to find good friends (at least for me). You get what I'm saying? So not all beautiful women are like that. Hope this helped.

Your sister,

Jee Jee

=)

Answer 19

god made it halal for us to enjoy life and not all pretty girls are like that if everyone did what you said no one is going to marry no one

Answer 20

the same can be said against marrying an exceptionally handsome man.  in any case, I think it is unfair to disregard anyone based solely on looks (either ugly or beautiful).  you have to take each person as an individual.