Advice for a relationship that never happened, and might happen again but for my best friend?

Question

my best friend started to text my old friend that i almost dated but we didn'tt because she was afraid it would s***w up her friendship with my sister..i have always had feelings for her in the back of my head and now my best friend comes along and starts to talk to her and i know there is something up because i asked the girl and she said" idon'tt know hopefully :)" i need to know what to do.. please help

Answer 1

Okay, this could get tricky. The girl has already made it clear that she likes your best friend. Now, in this sorta thing, there's really only so many things you can do.

Option #1: Tell your best friend that you still like this old friend of yours and to at least give you the chance to go after her one more time. I'm not sure how strongly you feel about this, and even if you do ask you best friend, he might still go after her. OR

Option #2: Tell your old friend that you still sorta want to date her, and that maybe now it would be a better time (you may or may not want to leave out that "better time" part). However, it's never a good idea to go after a person that is already attatched to someone else. It never turns out right. Either she ends ot for the other guy, or she just flat out turns you down for him. But if she's not that attatched to him, then the BEST thing to do is ask. You may get that second chance after all...

Option #3: Talk to your sister. The reason behind that was that your sister DID used to be friends with this girl. She will probably know if the girl even still might considering going out with you. You never know, if she says that she's over you, then you don't have a chance.

Option #4: Accept that your best friend may go out with a girl that u almost dated. Time may have run out for the two of you, but is it really worth it to ruin your best friend's chances when someday, he may look back on this and see it as the "never happened relationship".

The option I would personally take is to ask the girl out. If she says yes, then there's nothing to it. If she says no, then give them a few weeks/months and see if you can't have another chance after some more time. Good luck, my friend.