Advice for dealing with soon to be husband's deployment?

Question

My soon to be husband will be deploying to Iraq in January for a year. Right now we're slowly getting used to not seeing each other...he goes to the field for a week or two at a time, and he will be gone for a month in October. We are extremely close. I don't know if anyone else has gone through this or has good tips. Is there anything that will make it hurt less?

Answer 1

My son will soon be leaving for his 3rd trip to Iraq. His wife makes use of the base network of spouses and also gets support through some facebook networking. Ask around of other wives for support groups.

Nothing will make it good, but networking with others will make it easier.

Tell you "soon to be husnabd" THANK YOU from me.

Answer 2

There is nothing that is going to make it easier, there is nothing that can prepare you, unless you have been through a deployment before, i would suggest not watching the news when they are talking about iraq, because you will drive yourself mad wondering if he is okay. Also remember that he wont be able to call you all the time, and hopefully you have internet, because he can get it in his room, and then you can talk more. There is a delay on the phone lines so when he does call, you wont talk too much, because the stupid delay.

When he leaves, just remember that he is doing his job, and stay loyal and faithful to him, try to keep busy, and send him lots of packages from home!

Good luck, it does start to get a little easier with every deployment you go through, although you will still be sad and miss him, you will get the hang of it.

Answer 3

Do not marry him. I know a couple who are both in the Army and they have kids, and none of them ever see each other or kids, the grandparents raise their children. What a waste of time Army is.

Answer 4

Your husband AND YOU are very brave. I don't know if there's anything that will make it hurt less but after he leaves, try to get busy.  And invite a friend or two over for a sleepover (like when you were little kids) the first night he isn't with you. That's usaually the hardest night.  A lot of my friends have started up little charities within their communities or gotten involved with the bigger charities for soldiers.

I will pray for your husband's safe return and for you.

Answer 5

Yes, get a new partner. This one is obviously not morally or personally very strong or proper. The man volunteered to join the military. He's not smart, but now he's going to Iraq. Rather than rectifying the situation and leaving the military illegally or even doing jail time, he's choosing to go to Iraq. He is abandoning you, his family, his care for his health and he is creating evil and harm in the world. It is common knowledge that the Iraq war does nothing good for America, so even if you don't care about the world think about the damage he is doing to America in the name of patriotism. It is ironic isn't it?

When you first break up, you'll feel horrible, you may even feel like you made a mistake, but eventually you'll heal, you'll meet a good man and in a few years time you'll know you did the right thing.

He does not deserve you and you do not deserve the kind of heart break that being with someone so immoral and weak will be like. Do yourself a favor.