Advice for helping my 23 year old niece still living at her parents home?

Question

My niece was born December 24, 1984 at 7:03am in NY, NY. She is an extremely intelligent young woman and has excelled in all schools. She speaks several languages and is a talented writer. In many ways, she is a very determined and strong willed person, like one would expect with a double Capricorn. The bad side is she does not wish to mature.

She completed her degree in psychology almost a year ago, and refuses to find steady employment anywhere. Up until graduation, she was excited about finding a job. Now she is talking about going to yet another college and pursuing a degree in a foreign language. She says that she wants to be an interpreter.

There are additional problems in that she is too timid to drive outside of where she is accustomed. She has worked as a clerk and lasts at those jobs for about a week. Her parents have asked if I could offer any astrological insight. I have, but I'm curious to see what those of you on here might think?

Answer 1

I take it that the parents are worried about whether she would find work and move out? It sounds like she needs to see a job councilor or even a therapist if you can talk her into it. I don't think she is mentally ill or anything, but I do see some problems with self-esteem and negative thinking.

Does she like going outdoors? Maybe she could get over her problem with driving if she planned outings where she would drive to a state park or museum. That might help with getting over the timidity of driving in other areas.

Like someone else said, maybe the psychology degree is not enough to get the type of job she wants, and maybe she feels she needs to add interpreting skills to it. I agree that at 23 she should be considering some plans for living on her own. She will be 24 in December, and it may finally hit her then that she is not a kid.

Her chart denotes that she would work best with partnerships. I do think it's important for her to see a job or personal councilor. In cases such as hers, if she keeps living at home, she will likely start blaming those around her for restricting her development. I've seen that happen many times.

Good luck to you and her. You sound like a very caring uncle.

Answer 2

Somebody has to have a talk with her. Tell her it is fine to better herself and that you are proud of her accomplishments, but she needs to step up the plate and make it on her own. Tell all the plus sides of living by herself. She could walk around her own place in the nude if she wants, she can go drinking at the clubs after work. Yet you also have to understand she may be having a hard time finding a job because of the economy. If things don't work out I would offer her a place to stay till she gets things worked out.

Answer 3

its better to live with your family !

Answer 4

tell her to look into taoism.  instead of being rushed to follow coercive, conventional behaviors, she can abandon the psychological torment and listen in 'wu wei' for her path in life.  

( also, a psychology undergrad degree is hardly employment training, so there is no logical 'work direction' she would adopt as a result of it. alas, multilingualism is another story, so maybe she's already on to something. )

Answer 5

I'd forget about astrology and give her an ultimatum to get a job and get on with her life.  People take advantage of those who enable them.  Her parents need to step up to the plate and quit allowing her to mooch.

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