Advice for renting a room in a family house

Question

So I'm looking at renting a room in a house with two parents and an 8 year old daughter. I like the idea because I can save money while still feeling safe. I'm wary that I'll be stuck in a small room, feeling awkward when I use the kitchen, etc. I also really didn't plan on sharing living space with a child. I don't mind children, it's just not something I was planning on. On the plus side it is a large house and utilities are included in the rather low rental price.

I've never rented a room out of a house before, but I have had roommates in the past without many problems. So, just sort of a general question, has anyone lived in a situation like this? Good experiences? Bad experiences? Any advice on questions to ask? I am concerned about having guests over (you never know, maybe all night sometimes) and any kind of "curfew" since I might be working a night shift.

Any feedback appreciated!

Answer 1

it's fine

Answer 2

I am currently staying at a relative’s house while doing a summer internship.  The house is very large and they are great to live with, but take it from me you will feel out of place.  I am a very considerate person and I feel very awkward using the kitchen and trust me when you have company stay over night it will be awkward for both you and them. Also there will be an "unsaid" curfew even if they say they don't mind. Honestly, I would just pay more to stay somewhere where you can be able to go home and do whatever the h**l you feel like doing.  It is worth it!

Answer 3

You should address all of your concerns with your prospective landlords and everything should be put down in writing- what their expectations are, your use of the common areas, what your rights are, etc. I'd say in general if you like the couple and get along then it should work out fine, and if you don't get along then it won't.

Remember to find out about:

use of any entertainment equipment (TV, video, stereo)

use of washer/dryer

any off-limits areas

use of other amenities they may have

restrictions that the child stay out of your room- reasonable expectations of privacy

use of the kitchen- stove/oven, dishes, dishwasher, microwave and fridge. I'd suggest a separate fridge even if it is small, if you don't plan on sharing food. Otherwise there's too much room for accusations of "you took my milk!" blah blah blah. Will you be having meals together or on your own? very important to decide.

use of the bath/shower- again, I'd suggest setting aside your own toiletries in a clearly delineated location

Company- both yours and theirs- if they have a party will you be invited? or will you be expected to make yourself scarce?

Entry area- will there be common entry areas?

Parking- where are you allowed/not allowed to park?

Use of garage for storage, if necessary

Cleaning responsibilities- can get very sticky because they are usually vaguely worded

Curfew/quiet hours

Delivery of mail- will you have mail delivered there or get a PO box? what about packages from UPS or Fed-Ex?

Contributions toward utilities, and "household" items like toilet paper & laundry detergent

Use of the phone/Internet- contributions toward common fund or setting up your own

That's all I can think of. Sorry it's long!