Advice in dealing with a recovering alcoholic?

Question

My mother has just about 70 days sober. She has been an alcoholic for god knows how long, but we've been aware of it and dealing with it for the past 3 years especially.

She used to drink an entire bottle of vodka a day, at least. She was addicted to vodka and wine. That was her drink of choice.

She goes to an outpatient rehab which seems to be working for her. But the problem is she's buddy-buddy with all the other recovering addicts.

Ever since she started going, she's been addicted to non-alcoholic beer. You know, the O'Douls c**p you can buy at the supermarket?

I could understand that if she were addicted to beer and was polishing off 27 beers a day in her alcoholic days, but she wasn't, she was drinking vodka and wine, never beer.

she's so impulsive about it. I'm not sure how many she drinks a day, but as soon as she runs out she runs to the store to get more.

It concerns me.

It's as though she hasn't learned to deal with the impulsivity at all. And it's so unhealthy, she's already overweight and she keeps chugging them down.

Any advice or imput?

Answer 1

i think you must go to therapy as your mum because all people who live near a recovering from alcohol need help too, it is very serious, in order to keep yourself in your center, and mental health. It is no enough the advices from friends, relatives, it's very important to accude to a center of rehab. , the sessions for the family, with a serious professional, as a md.psychiatrist, try to call as soon as you can and don't matter how much, oneself waist energy a lot living with that trouble

hope you trend and have every luck indeed!

Answer 2

it sounds like you have your answer. as long as she is romancing the habit she leave room to fall. and to show disrespect to your intelligences. now you have to practice your part of your sobriety's. Most effective treatment include the family as well as the addict. and they offer group counseling. called al-anon

Answer 3

The best way for a person with an addiction problem to get back addicted is to hang around their friends who also have addictions.

If those people were really her friends, they wouldn't be putting booze under her nose.

First, she needs to stay away from them for a long time.  Sounds hard, but she won't recover if she keeps on seeing them.

It's normal for her to gain weight after a detox.

Answer 4

She has replaced one addiction with another.

I know it is hard to deal with but it sounds as though she has an extremely addictive personality and some people are just "wired" that way.  Most recovering addicts sit around smoking and chugging down coffee all day.  

Give her at least some credit for not drinking alcohol anymore.  At least she has replaced it with a lesser evil.  After she has gone a little  longer without alcohol, perhaps you could could encourage her to cut back on the O'Doul's or at least give her some insight that she has become addictedd to it.  

It's only been 70 days - recovery is a LONG process.  Don't give up on her yet.