Advice on a 5 year old with an attitude please?

Question

My 5 year old huufs and puffs about everything, when she is mad she sounds like a 14 year old throwing a fit. She has a little sister, and gets extremly jealous, saying she just wishes she was a baby again,,, and i do do quality things wiht my 5 year old when the little one is taking a nap or ect... When she asks a question and I tell her the answer she tells me i'm wrong and trys argueing about it, she is very smart and even skipped a grade but she think she is miss know it all. She stomps up the stairs while being punished. She does not listen when i tell her to stop doing things. Her father and I are seperatd since 2 years ago and i have bene seeing someone for about 7 months and she is extremly rude to him, telling him to go home ( then laughs), and she will never trust him and ect.... Now today i yelled at her for agrivating her sister and she told me she didn't like being home and wanted to stay in school all the time. sorry if there are typos.........

Answer 1

try couseling it could be bc of the separation,when i was youn,i took everything out on my mom and i reget it now but i was mad at her bc of the separation(although it wasnt her fought ).. also shes only 5 that sounds about normal for her age

Answer 2

she knows how to control you and get her way,funny thing is you allow it.show her your the boss not her.if shes not that way with others then its because she knows you wont do anything.take control of her while shes still young.

Answer 3

^^ I dont think its about the divorce, I just think it's that she knows what shes doing. The key, I believe after experience in childcare, just ignore her when shes naughty and praise her lots when she does something good or kind. but dont give in to her demands, if she stops one day and doesnt give attitude, praise her. it works wonders. Also take away her priviledges such as sweets, doll etc and when you say you wuill do something, follow it through without making a fss and ignoring her. she will soon realise your in control and I ope you have a lovely life watching her grow up xx

Answer 4

Scream, kick,cry,But daddy cry thats advice

Answer 5

I agree with the one above me... spank her! My parents did it to me and I am an adult and still won't even curse around my parents!

Answer 6

well at that age you can start grounding her just warn her that your the boss and if she continues to act bad that you will ground her to her room with absolutely nothing no tv no books no toys nothing if she continues put her in her room and ground her for 5 hours i was always told go by the kids age on hours but it worked for my kids one of my daughters did stuff like that at 6 yrs old and i started grounding because spanking and yelling wasnt working so give it a try it might work for you good luck also you do want to get control over her before its to late dont let her control you it will only get worse good luck

Answer 7

Ok, the problem here is she is upset about the divorce; maybe she thinks it's her fault and is pushing everyone away, maybe she has a close relationship with her biological father and is angry at you because she doesn't get to see him as much. She's also upset because she feels this guy your seeing is taking her dad's place in your life, her life and her home and it upsets her. How does your boyfriend treat your daughter. Here's what you need to do; first up sit her down and find out what it is she's upset about. If she's blaming herself for the divorce, make sure you reassure her she's not to blame and that you and your ex love her just the same. If she's somehow wishing the 2 of you would get back togehter, make sure you gently tell her that while you still love your ex and you will always be connected to him as parents, but inform your daughter your not getting back together with him. If she's upset about your boyfriend; reassure her that he's not taking her dad's place in any way, shape or form. When your daughter is disrespectful to him; you tell her he's a guest in your home, and as a guest he will be treated with courtesy/respect and if she can't do that then she will be punsihed. Don't pressure your daughter to have a relationship with your boyfriend because a) she's not ready b) who knows how long this boyfriend will stick around. Let her come to see him and get to know him on her own time and terms.

Answer 8

dont let her control ur life..she is UR daughter!!...u should definetly put ur foot down and put some rules down on the table...if she doesnt follow.. she will have to face the concequences...take away the things she likes...make her feel bad when she does something bad...reverse the situation and explain to her what if some would of done this to you how would u feel...dont let her control u hunny....

Answer 9

If it was my daughter i punish her for a mounth not let her go ANYTHING spank her give her time outs when  she's bad.Whan she stomps up the stairs i would throw one of  her favorite toys out.When she mean to her other brother or sister i wouls make her stay in her room and not come out when she's mean to ur boyfriend i would loose my mind i just yell and slap her

Answer 10

spank her an tell her whos boss an also wen she has a attitude but her un timeout or send her some were she can rember not to argue with u an not huff an puff

Answer 11

Your daughter is very, very stressed.  Do not add to her stress by punishing her.  A five year old does not have the ability to tell you, for example, "I'm scared, " or "I need more of your time," or "I'm worried that you will get married again, but I want you and daddy together."

Call her pediatrician and discuss the matter with him/her.  Then take action.  Love her.  All the best.

Answer 12

Spank her.

Answer 13

I agree with the first one, maybe try a spanking.....I know most people don't agree with that, but that is my advice, if you are giving her attention, and everything, that is just what she may need......

Answer 14

most kids different at school anyways sound like she unhappy angry litle girl at the moment dont agree with spanking her thats not an answer it will just make her more angry and flustrated with you.you need to get to the root cause of this.try to talk to her try spending some alone time with her give her lots of attention and praise her when she being good tell her you love her.mak her feel important

Answer 15

She is trying to control you..you have to take back the control spanking doesnt work it just raises the aggression in the house trust me you cant argue with a 5 year old.  When she is rude or disrespects you or your visitors calmly send her to her room until she can be nice and dont let her out until she apologises..Dont hold a grudge once she apologises let it go but if she does it again put her back in her room and start taking things away from her that she treasures until she can prove that she deserves to have  them.  She is an intelligent girl and she knows how to push your buttons dont take it to heart when she says nasty things to you she doesnt mean it she is just trying to get your attention with maximum effect dont rise to the bait as hard as that is just be consistant with your punishment so she knows she cant walk over you.  My son did the same thing we went through this I told him I loved him but his behaviour was just not acceptable and I wasnt going to put up with it eventually he realised that my new partner was not taking me away he was adding to the family try and have an outing as a family with your new partner show her that she is still a priority to you maybe she is just feeling a little threatened with the baby and a new partner.. Be strong with her honey, you will get through this...