My almost 13 year old stepson pitched a fit yesterday because he couldn't fold his duvet cover. Instead of following his father's lead, he stormed out of the house but not before grabbing his cellphone from the basket that we put them in during the weekend. He comes back in and has his phone taken away and locked up. Then he is told that because of his behavior, he needs to be on a 12 minute time out. Instead, he kept on repeating things over and over again. We finally get him into the corner and he decides he's going to sit and f**t about. We tell him that every time he does something like that, we reset the clock. He's not having any of that and runs out of the house again. He came back and had to write lines about respect and about throwing his dirty clothes in the basket. See below. I go out with a girlfriend for 3 hours and come back to find he never went back in the house and my husband doesn't want to go running around looking for him. I tel him that I saw the boy in the garage and he's in the attic of it hiding. Then the boy comes out and his dad catches him and brings him in the house. He's screaming and flipping out and just going crazy. He woke my 4 month old son up from his nap. So we have a 12 year old and a 4 month old both screaming. One is scared and the other is inconsolable. My husband's tactics aren't being effective so I try getting the boy into the bathroom to put cold water on his face. He's resisting and striking out and I was scared. Instead he went back to the bed and I had to bring him a cloth but he threw it away. So the next step was to wait for him to calm down, so we locked the door. My husband decides he needs to try again but the boy ran out the window. At this point I was very scared because he's very strong now. Not like the last fit he threw 2 years ago like this one. I told my husband that he needs to take his son back to his mother's house because I don't feel safe. I told him that his son can not come back until he's getting the therapy he needs. More on that below. Now my husband thinks I'm being unreasonable. I didn't say he couldn't come back ever, I said he couldn't come back until he gets help. My husband thinks it was just a one time fit and I think it will happen again and will be worse when he's bigger and stronger.
My stepson still wets the bed. We bought him the pullups to wear at night. For the last little while, instead of throwing them out, he throws the used ones under the bed along with his wet underwear. He wets at least 2 times a night. This is the third time we have had to talk to him about it. Another issue is that he gets violent when playing video games. After a session, he went outside and pointed his toy guns at his sister, brother and his head and pretended to pull the trigger. He loves drawing war scenes and knives. We didn't allow him to play those games anymore but my husband let him again. The boy's mother is inconsistent and calls us when he's having a tantrum but when we call her she says he's not like that at home.
I left last night with bags in hand and my son because I didn't feel safe anymore. I didn't come back until my stepson went home. I don't want him here in two weeks.
I have no idea what to do and my husband doesn't see all the things that led up to today. He thinks I'm being unreasonable and not thinking right.
His last fit was because he didn't want to share the pencil crayons. He was screaming and squealing like a pig. I don't think he was doing the squealing on purpose but that's what it sounded like. He hid under the table for hours after that.
When we try talking to him when he's upset, you can't. He won't stop talking and having breathing problems.
My husband just attributes it to stress. What's he going to do when he's so stressed out he harms someone?
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