Advice on blendeding families.my fiance and i are looking to move n together n a few monthes we both have kids

Question

i have a 6yr old daughter and he has a 15 yr old son, my first time having a stepchild, what things should i look for and what steps should i take to get us all adjusted?

Answer 1

rosalie, why answer if yuor only going to be a jackass and correct her when you knew what she ment, you had know answer for her and i doubt she would want to hear it from you,

anyway, it is difficult to blend families, there will be alit of jealousy, and some fighting over the kids but if its really love it will work out good luck,

Answer 2

Really, it boils down to just a couple of things -

Respect each other as adults in the children's lives.  Let the children know that you do.

Respect each other as parents.  Communicate honestly, politely & with a desire to understand.  

Respect the relationships that already exist, both between the children & the parent that they live with -and- between the children and their other parent.

Answer 3

set boundrys. sety schedules, try to make things work but dont force them. it'll probably be battle of the sexes for a while. from the six yr old, i believe shes at the age where shes most likly to ajust, but just incase, make sure she has her space. if she doesnt want to talk to for awhile. dont make her. the 15 yr old. thats harder.you cant give him to much space. infact, do the simple things like, asking " how was your day hunny?" or " need help with homework?. dont force things to work overnight. it could take two yrs.

Answer 4

Don't Do It......

Answer 5

i do believe the word is "blending"

Answer 6

My first suggestion is don't move in until after your marriage.  Do family activities with all four of you, as well as you spending time with just his son and your fiance spending time with your daughter, as well as time with you own children.  Make sure you treat and love the step child as your own.  Don't force the 15 yr. old to play with the 6 yr old, but it would be a good idea (if you trust him) to ask him to babysit when you and his dad go out, but don't force him to.  You and your fiance also have to discuss discipline, do you punish his kid or pass the problems on to his dad, does he punish your daughter or tell you when a situation arises, have a plan.  When you are staying home for dinner, make sure you are having sit-down meals together, maybe have everyone help prepare the meal some nights.  The more you do as a family (but not over-kill)  and the more you and your fiance show love to both children, the easier the blending will be.  Good luck.

Answer 7

the 6 yr old will need some time to get used to the boy but she should be fine n about 1or2 weeks but they will love each other eventually

and try to bond with the boy and get your fiance to bond with your girl it will all work out