Advice on building confidence fast?

Question

any advice on how to build confidence fast? anything you tell yourself to understand you are the best and you can do anything and achieve it?

Answer 1

Well if I have to be the best, and able to achieve anything - then I'm going to freak myself out. Reasonable expectations are a good way to build confidence, imo.  

Answer 2

1. Recognize your insecurities.What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, to emotional abuse (past or present) from a loved one or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down.

2. Talk about it with friends and loved ones. Wear it on your sleeve. Each day you should chip away at it; wear it down. There's no quick fix. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve each issue before you can move on.

3. Remember that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road.

4. Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.

5.Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Try writing your blessings down. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.

6. Be Positive, even if you don't feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.

7. Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.

8. Fake it. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you're a completely confident version of you; go through the motions and see how you feel.

9. Make a list of your strong points.

All the positive things about yourself and the things that

you are good at doing. Think of compliments you have

received or things that come easily to you. It doesn't

matter what it is, if it's good, write it down.

10. Choose two of those things that you want to work on to

improve even more.It's important to succeed and by concentrating on the areas you are already good at you will have a better chance of

becoming even more sure of yourself. Remember that success

builds upon success.

11. Exude confidence even if you don't feel like it.

Talk to yourself in an encouraging way and stay away from

negative thoughts and people as you can.Instead surround yourself with positive, confident, and successful people. This will become a habit and one that

will build confidence.

12. Look at yourself in a different way than you are used to

doing.It can change your life and help your confidence level to

rise. See yourself as the self confident person you want to

be and before you know it you will become that person.

Most of all, smile, andbe thankful for your life!

All the best =]