Advice on child support issue, father in military haven't received any payments?

Question

I have a 7 month old son, I am in a relationship with his father. He did sign the birth certificate and He does acknowledge our son as being his. I gave him all the paperwork he told me he needed to fill out the form for a voluntary allotment (birth certificate, ss card, bank info...etc.) Problem is I gave him this information in March. Every time I question him on the status of the pay he tells me it should be done by next month and so on and so on. Now today, he is told me that I will not receive any back pay and he's not sure when the child support will fall into play. I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and handle this process on his own, for I don't want things to get ugly and have to go to court. But also I don't feel my son should have go without because of his father not taken care of responsibilities. My question is...Does it really take this long for the paperwork to process through the system? Or is he misleading me with false information? If so, what steps can I take to make sure my son is taken care of by both parents??

Answer 1

well if he is enrolled in tricare...he has claimed him as a dependent...but the money shouldn't matter he can pay you himself...and if it was the military's fault there would be back pay because they would take it all out of his check at once to clear that debt up...but he isn't going to pay you....you know this...dont wait any longer take his *** to court...and no he doesn't have to do a paternity test..he signed the birth certificate...in cases like those civilian courts are known even if he did a paternity test and it came up later he wasn't the father in the best interest of the child ...they would more than likely still make him pay child support....

Answer 2

oh no !!!you take YOUR SELF right down to your local probate court file the papers with the dor child support services and DO NOT wait for him to do it cus he does not want to pay you now, he didn't wait to get you pregnant make sure you tell them that he is in the military and is not trying to help me take care of this child oh don't forget the ss# that is important the need that to track his salary, if there is already a court order on him in regards to child support and he has not paid anything the will also get him on the "REARS" an could hold him in contemptt of court well direct deposit the money into your checking/savings account. forget that benefit of the doubt your taking care and raising that child your self and you thing that is fair that he wont even help you out plz think about your child.

Answer 3

no the military may not accept what he has  already given.  they may require a paternity test( at your expense) and they will DEFINITELY require a court ordered child support agreement.  

too many servicemembers were getting scammed..believing when they were told a child was theirs when it wasn't.  

Tricare is medical insurance.   the BC may be enough to enroll the child in Tricare.  

Answer 4

The military has nothing to do with any child support issues. They will enforce a court order to pay child support by deducting it from his paycheck, but thats it. And the military requires paternity testing for any children born out of wedlock regardless of if the father is on the birth certificate or not. The same thing applies for the child to be able to be enrolled in DEERS. You are going to have to go to the child support office and file for support. They will paternity test him and then you will have a hearing for the amount he will have to pay you. The judge will also order if he will have to pay back to the date of the birth of the child - which in that case it will make his first few payments higher until he is caught up. He'll bring the order to the finance department and have it taken out of his check.

To your updates:

Even though he signed the Volunatry Acknowledgement of Paternity he still has to have a court ordered paternity test. The child support enforcement will do this for you and it doesnt cost anything. The military has policies in order to ensure the soldiers are doing their part of taking care of their dependents, but only after the soldier is proven to be the father with 99.99% certainity (if the child was born out of wedlock). The only way that can be done is though a paternity test. It's just standard procedure.

As for the medical - As part of the court order he might be forced to enroll your child in TRICARE, but that all depends on if the judge orders him to be the provider of the medical.

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Don't get me wrong, I am all for paying child support - but bailie is wrong! The military does require a paternity test and if he isn't the father he doesnt have to pay child support! That's just ridiculous!

I know for 100% sure because I am going through the SAME EXACT SITUATION right now, except my husband is the one in the Army who will be paying the child support! =)

Answer 5

First child support needs to go through the court.  Right now old boy has zero obligation to pay you a cent.  If you have a court order from the family court saying he is supposed to pay X amount each month you can have your attorney serve him and they will attach his wages,  Without that you are just being scammed by Mr. Sperm donor.  March?  He is scamming you. It should take 8 weeks maximum to get an allotment set up and paying to you.  Tricare also has nothing to do with a birth certificate.  You need to physically go with him to a a Tricare office to select  doctor for your child.  Then it is another 30 days.  He needs to put this child on his Page 2 which in turn gets the child enrolled in DEERS.  Then and only then can you start the Tricare process.  You are pretty much screwed with a lying, scamming dirt bag that knocked you up.  Get an attorney if you ever want to get a cent from this guy.  Stop playing nice.

Answer 6

If you don't have a court order for child support then you're only going to get what the father wants to give you.  You're leaving the choice up to him and he won't qualify for any more pay from the military with the exception of maybe qualifying for some BAH to help pay for his dependent's housing.  I can understand not wanting this to get ugly but you at least need to get into the legal system to get any custody and child support agreement you two have together registered so that the military will take it out of his pay if he's not handing it over willingly.

And yes, they may require a paternity test even with him saying the kid is his.  To many service members and/or their significant others have been willing to bilk the system by claiming that the child belongs to the military member when in fact the child does not.  The military is cracking down on this kind of fraud.