Advice on dealing with a 16 year old and abortion. Help please?

Question

My niece (monkey) came to vistit grandma a few months back... She confided in her sister that her period was 3 months late.. her sister had her call their mom, and about a month later her mom took her in for an abortion.

I think this was a wrong choice. I Not because Im so totally against abortion ( i am gainst it, but I also feel to each his own) But because I think it is having a very bad effect on Monkey I am seeing a deep depression in my neice. She is carring around a ultra sound picture of her "baby" and told me it was a boy. She got very ill after the abrortion and got an ifection.. My nephew told me yesterday that he is very worried about his sister because she is sleeping with everyone and anyone... For some reason her mother has a hold on her that I can not explain. She was having 2nd thought about the abortion in the first place, but no matter what her heart told her she listened to her mom. When she found out I told her I would take her and baby in and we would help...

Answer 1

I think the best thing that you could do is be there for her. To talk and comfort her, and let her know this. It sounds like she is going to do what she wants, be there for her to confide in. You cannot force someone to not be out there sexually. You have to talk, and teach, and keep teaching. It's sad, sometimes you have to let a situation go and not let it affect you so much.

Answer 2

Sorry but it sounds like there are not very good women role models in this family. Monkey needs a good talking to, maybe by you. Abortion is sad. I'm glad I was never in that situation. I was smart and protected my body and myself. Condoms plus birth control. Your niece needs to understand that abortion is not birth control and that babies are not these cute little things. They are money and energy suckers. She needs to focus on graduation high school and working toward college. Having s*x for affection and attention will not fix anything.

She will never forget the abortion. It will haunt her for the rest of her life. She needs to get therapy.