My brother in law is an abuser and I've always made no attempt to hide what I think of him. Trouble is that my family have always glossed over the way he treats my sister and act like this is normal.
After many years of protecting my sister from her own life choice (i.e., threatening to beat him up whenever he abused her) I stepped away from it all because I'd had enough.
My sister and mother both seem to think that its my responsibity to befriend and mentor her husband. I don't. My mother is a passive aggressive who, gradually, has managed to stick it to me by refusing to acknowledge or respect my wife or son.
My father passed away after a short illness. Nobody in the family (including my mother) was there when he died except for me. My sister did turn up when I had to leave after sitting all night withn him when he was dying. Despite my telling her to watch him for signs of distress she left him to go for a smoke. When she came back he was dead.
Recently the brother in law has started to make idle email threats which I have stored away until they get so much I can take them to police. He's not happy that I posted the story of my father's passing on my business website, which includes a magazine section. My mother has not contacted me in a while and I am glad. I cannot understand why she would not want to be there when her husband was dying. I know some people have different views about this but I can't get it straight in my head.
Now that BIL is causing trouble I have decided to amputate all of them. I've gone ex directory and never want to see any of them again.
Question is this:
Have I done the right thing or do you think I should subject my wife and son to more of this despicable family's treatment?
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