Advice on how to get the wedding guest to be quiet at Our first dance song?

Question

I went to a wedding a few weeks back and when it came to the Brides first dance song, the guest were talking among themselves that you could hardly hear the first dance song. I thought it was very rude and I would be upset that if in 5 weeks during my first dance song that everyones talking...Advice on to handle that problem.

Answer 1

play it REALLY  loud and/or duct tape their mouths shut

Answer 2

Talk to your DJ about that.  Maybe he can announce it in a way that lets people know that they need to pay attention.

The bottom line is after a few minutes, people will get bored and will talk.  There really isn't anything you can do to make them be quiet without everyone thinking you are being rude.

One thing you could do is make your first dance more exciting.  Take ballroom lessons and choreograph something to keep your guests attention.

If you aren't into dancing, you may just need to leave it up to the DJ.

Once you are dancing your first dance you are not going to notice anyone but your husband anyway.  Trust me you won't care if anyone is talking.  (Besides they are all talking about how beautiful you are and how lovely a couple you are anyway!)

Try not to stress about little things like this.  As long as you and your guests have a good time, who cares.  At that point you will be married so enjoy it!!

Answer 3

It isn't a problem and as another poster mentioned, you can't do anything about it.  If you do, you will offend your guests.  I would leave a wedding reception if a bride actually had the DJ say something like that because it's very rude.  

People are going to talk during the first dance because we attend weddings to socialize and celebrate.  Many times we do say "oh, aren't they cute kids!" or something to that effect and go back to discussing how much everyone has grown over the years.  We don't attend them to sit quietly while watching two kids shift their weight in the middle of the dance floor.  It's not like they are talking through the ceremony or something along those lines.

However, if you want to grab people's attention, then you and your fiance can take ballroom dance lessons and do a lovely first dance together that will amaze your guests.  I wouldn't do one of those crazy dance routines, but a lovely waltz to your song would be very sweet.

Best wishes!!!!!

Answer 4

Have the bandleader or the DJ or the host tap a glass with a spoon, and say: Ladies an gentlemn I would like to direct your attention to the dance floor, where Mr and Mrs. Jon Smith will dance their first dance and husband and wife. Leave a moment for applause, and start the music.

And yes people will talk, they will be saying, awww, isn't that cute, they make a lovely couple, did you hear how they decided on that music? they are chatting. That is what they are supposed to be doing. Really, seriously, if I were a guest, and somebody told me I had to sit still with my mouth shut during the dance like some of the people above suggested, I would be in the bathroom until you were done. It would be very rude to do that. It is not gradeschool, it is a wedding. And some people might clap along with the music. And it is a tradition that guests call for a kiss at the end of the dance. Want to miss that?

Answer 5

Could you have the DJ introduce the new "Mr. and Mrs." at the beginning of the dance to get everyone's attention?

What a rude group of people to talk during the first dance to such an extent one couldn't hear the song!

Answer 6

I would recruit about 5 of your best friends, and tell them that it's their job to spread out among the guests and, when your 1st dance song comes on, if they hear anyone talking, to just lean over and "Shh" them.  Tell them the story about the wedding you just went to, and how it seemed really rude to you.  That would probably work, and they'll probably enjoy having something to do to help you out on your big day.

Answer 7

Don't sweat it....it is YOUR first dance and just enjoy it and if people are talking during the dance just ignore it.  You will sound incredibly self centered if you request nobody talks during your dance.

Answer 8

Have your DJ direct everybodies attention to the center of you reception hall where the dance will take place.  They will all watch instead of conversing, and if anyone percieves the request as being rude, then they will be upset with the DJ and not you.

Answer 9

Ask the DJ to make an announcement that you would like to have everyone sit back and quietly listen to the song and enjoy themselves as you share your special moment.

Answer 10

I've never heard of such a thing. I don't think you need to worry. There's nothing you can do about it either.

Answer 11

LMAO! Are you serious?!?! You can't MAKE your guests be quiet while you dance! The reception is basically the after-party when people mingle and chat, therefore there WILL be mingling and chatting during the dances. You can't seriously expect the guests to sit there quietly and watch you and your new husband dance. It just doesn't work that way. I've never been to a wedding where the guests watched in complete silence as the new couple had their first dance. In fact, during the first dance the guests are usually talking about how cute the couple look together. I think you should definitely lighten up on this one.

Answer 12

Have the DJ announce that the bride and groom would appreciate everyones respect  in keeping silent during that dance.

Answer 13

Well, I guess you can have the DJ announce to everyone to be quiet, but I think that is a little rude.  Don't worry about it.  If a few are talking so what?  If you need all eyes on you, then have it announced.  That is all you can do.

Answer 14

Usually, the DJ (if you use one) announces that this is the "first dance" and everyone watches.  You had an odd experience.  Ask your DJ to say:  "QUIET PLEASE ... May We Have Everyone's Attention ...  At This Time We'd Like to Have All Eyes Focused On The Dance Floor ... For The Bride & Groom's First Dance" ... if that doesn't work, nothing will!

Answer 15

When the DJ announces your first dance as husband and wife have him say lets all direct our attention  to the center of the dance floor and watch as the new couple has their first dance. that will get them all looking at the floor for you two and they'll watch as the DJ asked them to do hopefully. Just have him say something like that. mabe he'll have an ideal as of what to say. something like lets all give our attention to the new bride and groom.

Answer 16

Wow the crowd.  Choreograph a dance.  It only take about 2 nights, and people will pay attention.

Most of the time the dance is boring so people don't pay attnetion.  

But, honestly, you'll be too wrapped up in your world to notice people talking.

Answer 17

If I were you, I would just have the DJ/ Band ask for everyone's silence when they announce your first dance. People should respect that. Also tell your parents and maybe some really close relatives the story about how rude you thought it was when people were talking during the first dance of the other wedding. It should make them hold their tongues. Congratulations on the wedding! Good luck!

Answer 18

A few people will talk but I haven't been to one that was that noisy. Most of the time, people are quiet. You can always have someone announce it in order to get peoples' attention.