Advice please help (LONG) ??????

Question

OK so I'm 20 yrs old, in my 3rd year of college studying English & over the summer I met this Armenian guy for about almost 2 months. Needless to say, I thought he was a nice guy & that there might be potential until he pretty much told me that he drank, smoke, & wanted to marry me for a green card & I said no.

I told him I didn't feel the same way but I could be his friend. Then he started acting a little shady & kept making sexual innuendoes at me during our phone conversations. I told him that I wanted to wait until marriage, & that I don't drink or smoke (the smoking thing really bothered me)

My friend decided to play a prank on him & I pretended like I wanted to have phone s*x w/ him, I did it (stupidly). I think he was drunk when I was "doing it" w him because he kept laughing, it was only for about 10 mins.

The last guy I was talking to before this guy really hurt me (he didn't respect me & pretty much told me that if I didn't have s*x w/ him, he didn't want to hang out), I just wanted to end this because I really couldn't see this going anywhere & he called me twice today (I think for phone s*x again) & I told him that we were too different & on two different pages.

So what I'm asking is: did I do the right thing? I know the phone s*x prank was a little mean/confusing but he didn't respect me in the 1st place so I kind of wanted to put him in his place? Someone please help cause now I'm starting to overanalyze this.

PS-He called me 4x after I told him not to call me anymore (is that a sign?).

Answer 1

Yes, you did the right thing. The way he called you it doesn't sound like it was because he wanted anything except the phone s*x. If you allow him back into your life, your opening yourself up to being hurt by him again.

Answer 2

I would suggest you to put a stop on this jerk.  You seem to be pretty smart. Whatever you did is over.  Tell him if he keep bothering you, Tell him this "I'm recording everything you are saying and I'm going to report you."   Another way is to change your phone number, get an answering machine  and don't answer until you know who is calling.  The most effective way that work for me is this one.  I had a problem once with this guy, he keep calling and calling, he was an alcoholic and once he tried to strangle me and that was it, every time I used to pick up the phone and find out who he was I hanged off.  If you do this over and over, he will finally got tire of calling.  If you keep talking to this guy he may get you into a lot of trouble.  Tell him straight that you will report him as a s*x pervert.  You deserve a nice guy and you don't need this kind of person.  Be aware of those guys that come from another countries they can be sweet and nice until they got those paper.  Some of them are nice, I don't want generalize, but also realize that some think that american girl are too easy to play with and they don't respect you.  God bless you dear.  Ga

Answer 3

what don't you get? he just wanted to be with you to get a green card and only wants you for s*x. just don't answer his calls for a couple of days if hes still calling tell him you only want to be friends and if he is still making in appropriate gestures to you just hang up and don't talk to him and look for a nice guy who will treat you right.and that phone s*x thing is funny...ha ha good luck hun.

Answer 4

Get this into your pretty little head...he wants to knock you up..you have just lead him on. Tell him to cool it for a year and act like a gentleman..and will think about it (but won't).

Answer 5

Having phone s*x, is NOT putting a guy in his place, you are encouraging him or teasing him - so yea he may be confused.  You should have told him straight up how you felt and been done with him. Your friend shouldn't have been involved in that way.  You will come across A LOT of guys like him just be careful. You should only date guys who are virgins as well. They are out there. If you're a virgin then he should be one too. Why should you be with a guy who's been around if you're not?