today, i did probably one of the most horrendous things in my life so far that i never thought i could have ever done. as my mother and i drove to a supermarket after i had a doctor's appointment, i told her very bravily that my older brother and her son had been abusing me for 7 years; almost 8. we froze in the middle of a sidewalk, as she burst into tears and as i did too, with people staring at us. i never thought i could tell any other soul about this, especially of the fact that i am an extremely painfully shy person. i have no idea what to do now. my brother is about to go into college. i know that he has hurt me so much in the past, and that i dont have to protect him if he obviously didnt want to protect me. my dad is (in my opinion) not a good dad! he is a bad husband to my mother, whom i feel sorry for, and screams almost everyday at our house which adds to the toxic atmosphere i live in. all of this just adds to my heartbreak. im worried for everything now, for my family, and im scared about tommorow, which is the day my mom will talk with my brother. my brother doesnt even know i spilled the beans on him today!!! im scared about his reaction, what he will say to my mom, and if he will beat me up or something for telling her! i feel so emotionally distraught, i cant even feel myself walk today. i know that my parents will always protect me, but this whole situation scares me to goosebumps and even though i know its not my fault, i feel in a weird way, haunted. unfortunetly, my mom is not american and is not good at english, and (another thing that added to my misery today) i couldnt find a good way to tell her about the sexual abuse. she wanted me to search everything even on the internet on how to sit down with a teen about his innapropriate sexual behavior. i feel so bad for my mom, and i feel bad for myself too. everyone says im the nicest person known to them, and as much as the possibly of my brother getting locked up behind bars as an adult, i'd cry for him... for some reason im never mean to anyone no matter how mean they are to me! i just... i dont know what to do. now my dad comes home from work, and tonight is the deadly chat she will have with him. im scared to death about his reaction, as well his bad attitude and personality gives me the feeling he will just cause even more chaos. im so upset that my childhood was stolen; by my own brother...
any advice i would appriciate soo much... how to talk with your child about his sexual abuse to his younger sister.
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