Advice please..?

Question

My husband and I are trying to conceive after a miscarriage in January. I am doing everything I possibly can which is taking the ovulation tests and checking my cervical mucus everything you can think of. He works off and is only home on the weekends which is hard when trying to conceive. My problem is I tell him when I am ovulating but he is always to tired or works on something else then it causes a fight. I don't know what to do. It is bring me down. He tells me he wants to have a baby but then we have s*x when its the wrong times. I don't know I am just hurt. Any advice please? Baby dust to all..

Answer 1

First off breathe.  It's easier to concieve when you are both not so stressed out.

Let him sleep.  YOur ovulation cycle wil not be over within 12 hours.  And try to make him less of a baby factory.  When you approach him at the door and esentially go "Hey baby.  I'm ovulating lets go." it gets old really quickly and makes him not want to do the deed.

Answer 2

Well.... this is just an opinion.... Maybe don't tell him when you ovulate and just surprise him and make it not so stressful. s*x is making love... not just to have a baby. Make it so s*x isn't just to make a baby but to show you love eachother in a deep way. and maybe if you can take a one week vacation (not around your period)

Answer 3

aww hun, sorry you are going through that. maybe he's scared, because of the previous miscarriage. my husband was, for 3 1/2 years. try sitting down and talking to him about it and let him know how you feel. my husband i seemed to have a lot of arguments like that, but now i have a beautiful preemie :0) if you don't try to sit down and talk to him, it might just keep on happening. try fixing him a nice dinner one night that you know he's going to be home and then talk about it then...just the two of you. Good luck!

Answer 4

I know how you feel I'm going through the same thing. My husband wants a baby but always makes excuses as to why he cant do the deed. My advice from experience is to quit talking about your ovulation schedule and baby related topics all together and eventually there will be that magic moment when all is right and it finally happens... That will be when your hubby is in the mood for loving and your ovulating : ) So try not to turn this into a timed and scheduled event. Let him make love to you when hes ready without the baby cloud hovering over him.It will be so much more fulfilling to you both and you will probably find he will want to do it more. So relax don't stress and I believe your little miracle will be on board soon enough. Good Luck and Baby Dust : )

Answer 5

I think that I would reconsider having a baby with this guy until I knew that we were stable and didn't fight. It isn't worth it to out that baby in an environment like that, ecspecially with him only home on weekends, that is going to be super stressful for you. But that is my opinion. Not trying to be rude though.

On the other hand. You can't stress either. Because when you stress over it that makes it harder to get pregnant. I know that from experience. My husband and I tried for 2 years and finally we decided to lay off a little and wait. Then I got pregnant! It was a shocker.

Good luck. Baby dust! =]