Advice wanted here please?

Question

Well i am going to be asking my best female friend out for a date lol.

For her 21st birthday i am buying her this. http://www.ernestjones.co.uk/webstore/detail/R/5202981/

Now we are both very good friends and spent a lot of time together. She is very protective over me and it is known that she does care about me. Well what i am wondering is what is the best way to ask her out and let her know that if she asks me out and she says no then i will still love to be friends with her.

In the long run do u think our friendship will be affected?

I have known her for 2 years and especially in the last one year she really cared about me. For example after a night out she would make a bed for me in her living room and ask me to sleep there. She would hate it if anyone would be a bit mean to me lol.

We have both spent a lot of time together and have also gone out for meals together alone.

So do u think all of this will change when she comes to knwo that i like her. She already know i liek someone and grilled me about it for 2 days until she gave up. She at the end was not pleased lol.

I unfortunately hurt her feelings once but she forgave me the very next day and said that '''Losing this friendhip over this matter would have been stupid on my behalf'

Anwyay so waht do u guys think?

Answer 1

Ask her out and let her kno if she says no u still wanna be friends. Just like that! Im sure she will understand.

Answer 2

i don't think it will. give it to her and see how she reacts. give it a chabce and tell her how u feel. first tell her, that u respect her, and you guys will still be friends no matter what. its a really beautiful gift.

Answer 3

Trust and friendship are a good basis for a future relationship.  So be honest.

Tell her you want to have more time with her, and that you feel ready for a long term relationship.  You ARE thinking marriage aren't you?

If not then I think you need to drop a few hints that you are nowhere near ready for marriage yet, before you ask her out.  If you are both Asian [a guess?] then perhaps cultural considerations need to be made... will she be expecting a proposal , or commitment.  Just make sure she knows exactly where she stands prior to any date request.

Answer 4

Go for it. But at the same time mention that you only want your friendship to always be intact even if you two decide that things just won't work out.