Advice when someone you love distances themself?

Question

I fell in love with a twink who got taken away into foster care for 3 MONTHS.

I'm older than him, so I suspect that's the reason he's not allowed to see or call me; however, even prisoners get to make and receive calls/visitors and conjugal visits.

He's allowed to hang out with other friends his age.

One day you love someone and the next day they're gone by no fault of your own (foster care). That's so unfair.

Maybe that has somthing to do with why im obsessing.

I'm just sad that he made the choice to date someone else (23-year-old recovering crystal meth addict) during foster care when he knows i was interested.

Now, he stopped taking the initiative to contact me; however, before he got taken away into foster care it was ALWAYS him calling ME. Thats why im so confused.

He responded to an email saying he "misses me" but hes "not single anymore".

He is 17, a high school drop out , addicted to weed, bi polar, ADD, paranoid, anxiety, fear of failure, works at micky d's, parents never married and split etc..

Anyways, he posted on his myspace his new job location at mcdonalds with the exact address so im thinking he did that for a reason?

so i went to visit him and he completely ignored me.

We live 1 hour and 30 minutes from each other so obviously i felt horrible.

why would he tell me he "misses me" and wants to "get together" when hes back after 3 months? it hurts life h**l.

i guess whatever relationaship we had before foster care is over?

He gets out in 4 weeks.

i havent had anyone like him in 5 years.

Im just really sad and heart broken that he's with another guy and ignoring me , especialy since we were going so well for 2 months before he got taken away.

We were never officialy dating or boifirends. I was kind of a sugar daddy to him, but it worked.

I've decided to stay off myspace and hope when he gets out of foster care in 4 weeks that he will call me.

I dont know what to do?

Answer 1

He's young, with a messed up life and probably a messed up head. Why you would want to be in a relationship with someone in this situation is beyond me.  

Answer 2

UNDERAGE...does that mean anything to you at this point? No matter how much love it was, and is,....he is still underage, and someone is still 'over' him.  I wouldn't worry about it yet, he is a teenager, and no matter what,...you need to move on. This could be concieved as 'contributing to the delinquincy of a minor,'. as well as statatory rape. Don't worry about things right now, the age is the problem....and you should know better than this. I would say the same thing to a 'straight' couple,...you know, you'd best be taking care of just you right now....and don't worry about people or things that could ultimately cause you great grief *i think it already has* down the road...

Answer 3

You know the truth- he's moved on and so should you.