Afghanistan - Families and Friends ?

Question

My Daughters bf, has just been deployed to Afghanistan, we're all very close to him and naturally worried for his safety, but know its what he's always wanted to do and we accept that, and are very proud of him.

Any advice as to the support i can give to my Daughter whilst he is away, as i feel i can only say "he'll be alright" so many times! She works which is keeping her busy during the day, but its evenings and weekends that are the hardest.

I would appreciate any advice or personal experiences that you can give.

Can i also wish ALL of your loved ones who may be away, my very best wishes as well.

thanks.

Answer 1

not much to say only if soldiers want to go to foreign lands and kill people at the behest of their governments, then expect the worst

Answer 2

Hey Carolyn

I think you shouldnt have posted this question in Military but Football instead

The football users you knew arent gonna give you those stupid answers

Well Im still very young and have no idea about military stuffs

But just best wishes to your family especially your daughter and her partnet

I know having a loved one away for a long time is not easy

(Im a foreign student in country I live now)

You must be very proud that youre gonna have a great son-in-law

=)

Answer 3

not much you can do apart from what you have said. my experience with soilders on tour was they told me that news from home especially letters were a great comfort to them. so maybe you could help her with that as we all now how hard it is to think of things to write to them. give all his friends a call as well and ask them to drop him a line. i am sure your daughter will let you know what support she needs and when. best wishes to the lad, i am sure he will be ok over there our lads are the best, bar none.

Answer 4

that is hard to deal with but i think if you show that your there for her anytime she needs you then it should be ok!

i wish you all luck!  

Answer 5

Let her know to just keep busy, Picking up a new hobby or starting a new class always helps me, I also volunteer a lot, it helps keep things in perspective. The time will go by slowly at times and quickly at others, but the more of a routine you have the easier it goes.

Answer 6

busy is good

tell her to send care packages

and spray her letters with perfume

they love that

dont you guys?

Answer 7

i can very well understand what your daughters going through. My husband was just over there for 16 months and by end of year should be back over there. Depending on where he is ...the mountains vrs bagram will depend on the amount of calls and communication she will receive from him.( Bagram for the most part is a lil more laid back and more chances for calls) And i do understand its nights and weekends that are the hardest at first because thats the times she was with him. My dad did the same thing you are doing. He just told me many people are praying for him and i have to keep my faith that he will be ok. Somedays were harder then others. Expect her to have great days and then out of the blue there could be a setback for her. Just be as supportive as you can and thats all you can do really, as im sure you are. Sending off care packages to him of his favorite things made me feel good. Incase you arent aware there are flat rate boxes you can get through post office that help with costs.  I hope this helped a little and i didnt just ramble on and make no sense. Good luck to your daughter and her BF that he may have a safe return.  

Answer 8

She needs to know that her boyfriend will soon return in several pieces in a 2 by 3 feet dirty box. That is the harsh reality of joining the Army and the consequences of war.

Blame our leaders for participating in unnecessary wars.

Answer 9

I was there in 2006 and really enjoyed it however leaving my wife and child behind is never easy. I leave for Iraq today and having been there for some of the people my friends left behind I have found one thing helps. Contact from the person deployed is paramount and he needs to have a smile on his face when he or she is talking, same rules for the people they are talking too. It's never easy for the ones left behind I can one vouch for that but sometimes it's not easy for the guys out there either. Be strong and positive and reall letters can really boost morale esp if they have little presents and smell of perfume. Try not too worry he will be ok I can assure you. We are the best trained army on this earth.

Answer 10

I dnt have advice but Carolyn Im adding him to my thoughts. Hope all goes ok for him, your daughter and you. Best wishes, Marco

Answer 11

I suppose it is all very well saying "She knew what she was letting herself in for." But that is not going to help you.

I think keeping her busy, or at least informed helps.

One piece of advice I do have is to get her to write. An actual hard copy letter.

They are far better the email, although that's good to, and less dangerous than text. ( Apparently the Taliban use the phone signals to locate out troops).

I will fill her time, and as  serviceman, let me tell you that it is such a good feeling to hold te received letter.

PS Love the Avatar!

Answer 12

Yes i've a friend who's son is over there. You'll be in my thoughts & prayers. Good words, & sending happenings from home, is good to get their mind off it, if only for while will help. God bless you & yours!