Afraid of University, big changes, people and ...to be honest... of the city...!!! Help Please!!

Question

Hi, Ok this is kinda embarrasing but oh well I really need help, I'm about to enter university and I don't feel ready for it even though I waited like a year before applying because I needed some extra credits, but now I'm about to enter, and I've been so scared I really feel like I'm gonna fail or get lost or people is gonna laugh at me or think I'm stupid...because well...I'm kinda new in this country, I have like 5 years here and I came from a relatively poor country and from a poor town where I was surrounded by...well you know....bunch of trees, no highways, big buildings or elevetors and that stuff, but I used to go to the city every month but It's not like I know how it is living there so when I came here It was different, but I wasn't afraid or anything but now I am!, It is embarrasing I know but I don't even know how an elevator works, even thought my parents know since they used to live in the city when they were in University before I was born. Also I get lost all the time, because I was never allowed to go out or anything since I have very overprotecting parents and I never really went out, but that's another boring story ...so this is really killing me, and even though my parents are starting to get my point and I told them I was leaving home (I'm 21), still I don't think I can survive all alone which is ...well, sad, and my bf doesn't seem to mind much since he works a lot and is always busy so I'm really alone ... I'm very scared, I even had weird dreams abput it, I got depressed, very stressed, and I haven't even applied for the student loan! (I just started filling out the form a couple of hours ago) I was terrible afraid of looking at that form and even going to the University's website, but I did all this cause I know I have to do it! But I just don't feel able to do anything, it looks like such a huge thing for a person that came from a small town and just learned English (but with good marks) to go to University ... Am I just underestimating myself? or what could it be? What do you suggest I should do? I feel like people are gonna look down on me, I really need help ... I already lost my period because of the stress for like about 7 or 8 months... Thank You.

Answer 1

it's not as bad as you think.. lol

i go to sdsu and its just like any other school really.

you just go to class, do your thing, and go home ;p.

just dont worry.

i'm sure there are some people in your position too.

Answer 2

im sorry your going through a hard time

but im sure however, you will do great. It feels bad, but its when you feel like that, that your capable of going through difficult situations. Your body is stressing you out because its trying hard, you have more chance of doing better. You will be suprised when things start coming together

Answer 3

I dont think you should ever underestimate yourself, nor should you let any one else do it to you.  Any one who has the opportunity to go to college is very blessed to have that opportunity.  Wether you like it or not signing that loan will be nothing but positive for you wether you get some money or atleast you tried (better then paying off the rest of your life).  I think everyone is scared of something at some point or other and going to a new place, with new people, and new things should be a good life experience.  How do you walk if you can't crawl right?  After all is said and done just like high School it wont matter what happened on your way, as long as you get there.  What have you got to lose? and dont say your dignity because if you do decide to not take this opportunity you will always wonder WHAT IF? and I think thats the worst thing to live with.

Answer 4

i completly understand what you're saying because i went through it. when i was in high school i got excepted to UCLA and i was very sacared of failing and not being able to keep up. however, when i got there the first two months were tough but then it started to because easy and more adaptable. the key thing you need to do is join into programs that intrests you, after that, it should all come into place. in addition, going to a university is like driving a car for the first time. at first it seems very difficult but once you get use to it, it's not that bad. trust me, you will like it!!!!

now this is my second year at UCLA.......and i love it