Afraid to lose my mom..

Question

My Mom has been sick for 9 years and i am 15 now, i have seen her look/be so weak, i would stay up all night and pray to God to let her make it through and stay with me. She has always made a big comeback with her disease and got a little bit better. Well now she is really sick again a couple nights ago and tonight and i can`t stand to see her like this, it kills me inside that i can`t help her. I used to think/say when i was a little kid and i still say the same thing to this day.. i want to die before her. It`s true. She has been the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, MN and they don`t have any treatment to help her. Her disease shuts down all the organs until she is dead and i would give her any of my organs if it meant she could live, i would give my life for her. I don`t get along with my Dad too well and my brother is going to college and moving out soon. So if my Mom was gone it would just be me and my Dad and that would not be good, cause we fight alot. I am really close to my Mom and she is like my best friend. I am really afraid to lose her, i can`t and don`t want to imagine life without her. Everytime i see her and try to talk to her, i end up breaking down crying in my room (like now) and end up listening to music and crying myself to sleep, or staying up all night checking on her. I made a promise to her when i was 4 and i am determined to keep that promise, even if she goes before i can achieve it, i will still achieve it and it is dedicated to her. (the promise is personal.) I start Highschool on Monday and she is so sick right now, i can`t concentrate on anything else. I need something/someone to show me she is going to be ok, but all i can do is tell her i love her and pray for things to get better. Anything you guys have to say about losing a parent or living with a sick parent would be helpful to me.

Answer 1

My mom has a mental disease that includes anorexia, buliema, and suicidal tendencies. I have been preparing for her death for many years. No matter how much I prepare or how much I try to be angry, I still love her and want her to be well. I feel so guilty for the times we have fought or I have been ill with her. I will always love her and want to have a relationship with her. You are not alone.Please never think that you are. If you ever need a friend, you can contact me via IM.

Answer 2

omg i am like seriously in tears right now.i know  i can't actually help but all i can say is be strong.our trials come to make us stronger.i lost my brother,he was my best friend.life will never be the same but we can only keep them alive in our heart.be strong.you're still strong and keep moving to that promise you made to your mom.i do hope everything in your life goes well.and remember, be strong and keep close to those who really care and love you and keep praying.god will always be here for you sweetheart :).

god bless.

Answer 3

I can't tell you what it feels like to lose a parent. I can only tell you that as time goes by, as I see mine get older, I worry.

Keep your promise, that's what will drive you. Please find someone to talk to. A school counselor, a pastor or priest, just someone that you can unload some of this very heavy burden. My heart breaks for you. I'm sorry that you're going through this alone. In the years that come, you're going to remember the good about your relationship with your mom. When the time comes, she's going to know that you loved her and always will. I know right now that is not enough. I can only hope that the rest of your life does not carry such pain.  

Answer 4

I am so sorry for you but not your mother.  It's your mother's time to go to a better place.  It is your time to live, get your education, marry and have your own children.  

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 Tell us that there is a time for everything.  A time to die and a time to weep and a time to laugh.

You will miss you mother and morn and weep for yourself because you will miss her.  Do not morn and weep for your mother for she will be in a battler place.  

A time of laughter for you will come.  Make the most out of your life.  We only have one life to live, there is no dress rehearsal, this is it.  So be happy and raise a wonderful family of your own.

As for your father, it takes two people to fight and argue.  Just don't argue back at him and soon it will not be any fun for him to argue and will quit it.  When he starts arguing, try not to pay any attention to him.  After he gets through talking ask him if your my be excused to go to your room.  

Blessings

Answer 5

You are really brave. That must be really hard for you. I am so sorry, I'll be praying for you and your family. I am so sorry. Good Luck, I hope you mom gets better.

Answer 6

Caitlin,

My mom, like yours was very sick for 10 years before she passed away. I would sit with her too for hours on end.  If she is up to it, have her make a video for you. Let her put on the tape what you might expect at certain ages. Have her leave you her thoughts for your sweet 16, a message for you when you fall in love etc. for your wedding day, when you have your first child. You will then always have her comforting voice and pic.  By the way its okay to cry in front of your mom. I am sure that she knows you are scared and afraid. She may be too.

You may not be getting along with your dad now because he too feels so badly and is stressing. Hopefully you will become closer. Maybe some professional counseling will help the two of you. Make sure you keep in contact with your dad and your mom's close friends too.

My mom is gone many years now. I still miss her but have wonderful memories of a loving mom.

As for you in school, make sure that your teachers know what you are going through, cause I am sure that it will be hard for you to focus on your school work.

Answer 7

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry. Keep praying for her, prayers always help.

I want you to think about this seriously;

No one wants to loose a parent, but your mom has been sick for a long time, wouldn't you want your mom to be pain free. You will have lots of pain in your heart but in time you will heal and you will be content knowing you mom is in a better place. And what would mother would allow there child to give up their life for hers. Try not to cry in front of her as you will cause her sadness. Tell her how much you love her and that you will keep your promise to her no matter what. As for your dad, you should try getting closer to him, you guys need eachother. If not, is there any relative you can go with? I will keep your mother in my prayer, and I will pray for you too. You have to be strong  

Answer 8

first off you're amazing. if my mom was sick i would never feel that close to her. no one in my family and i get along. just think of how good of a relationship you DO have iwth her. i'd kill to have that. and just tell ehr you love her and when she does FINALLy rest with God, she will remember all hte good times you had. cook her her fav meals, buy her something shes always wanted. make waht time she does ahve left amazing and share in that love so many others don't get to have. and EVERYTHING happens for a reason. this is God's will

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Answer 9

Wow. You are an incredible daughter. Don't feel like you can't talk to her about things, it will probably help both of you. I am SO sorry to hear about this, and if there's anything I can do or say, just email me. Even if you just want to talk, im here :)

Answer 10

I feel so bad for you, keep praying though.  The best you can do for your mom is to do good in school, have friends, go out, join clubs...be the best you can be if not for your self, how about her?  She will feel alot better knowing YOU are ok.  Good luck and smile alot....it helps you and her.  She will love to hear all about your adventures at school and all the kids, classes, teachers, homework. I bet it will help her feel better instead of all the gloom and doom.

Answer 11

I really pray for you and your mother, I'm crying now just reading this. I've lost friends but never a parent, It would have to be the hardest thing in the world. I really just don't know what to say other than that I will pray for you because I know that what your feeling is horrible and nothing will take that feeling away. I'm just so sorry, I truely and deeply am. I hope that everything will be okay. Just remember when you were a child and she was well and all the fun you have together, let her tell you stories and just take care of her and tell her you love her alot. And mainly just pray, thats the best thing you can do. You really love your mother and Jesus knows that and is watching you, he will help you.

Best of wishes.