After I date a guy I like and kiss him, I'm suddenly disinterested?

Question

Is this a psychological problem? It's almost like after I get to know someone and the curiosity is gone, I'm no longer attracted. This has happened 5 times in the past year and the only time I've liked a guy after kissing him, he was a complete a*****e and I knew it. I'm 19 and never had a relationship.

Answer 1

Well that's normal.  People can have feelings for people and then they die away.  It's happened to me before.  I like someone and then I've waited to long to hook up with him and the feelings die away.  

It's only natural.  Don't worry you'll find a guy sometime.  

Answer 2

stay sober. it helps.

Answer 3

You need to find someone who can keep the interest and is good for change.

Answer 4

i think you expect more than what you those persons really have for you.

Try to work on that!it's not a very good thing

Answer 5

I know exactly what your talking about.

Except i'll like a guy then when we get together i won't be interested anymore.

It's wierd.

Answer 6

You need to work on that, then. You'll never progress as long as you maintain that stance, which sounds absurd anyway.

Answer 7

well keep kissing frogs one day you'll be lucky

Answer 8

You probably had very HIGH EXPECTATIONS, so it's most likely that when they don't fulfill your unrealistic fantasies you let them go.  

Answer 9

This is definitely psychological, but I wouldn't call it a problem, it's that you like the chase or game more than the guy, at your age is perfectly fine, and in order to eventually find out what you do like you may go thorugh this for a while.

Answer 10

LIke many people, the chase is the most exciting part of a relationship, but when you get to the end (and for you it is the kiss) you no longer have the thrill of chasing.  Some other things to consider is since you have not had a serious relationship past that, you may be suffering from a past incident that makes you afraid of commitment, and realizing that pass the kiss means more commitment it may become tough to internalize.  Just take your time and try to make more of a emotional commitment with a guy and see if that helps, also you may want to see a psychiatrist or a priest or some other person of trust.

Answer 11

THE RIGHT ONE WILL COME, HE WILL CAPTURE YOUR ATTENTION FOR A LONG TIME AND WHEN YOU MEET HIM YOU WILL KNOW HE IS THE ONE

Answer 12

I have exactly the same problem and I'm 19 too! Yay, I thought I was the only one...

I think that it's because regardless of how mature we are, we are immature relationship-wise. It's gotten me into a bit of trouble but I think you should just enjoy it at the moment. Plenty of time for that heavy lovey-dovey stuff later.

It's like we have to keep re-learning the lesson "The grass is NOT greener on the other side."

It sucks I know but just accept it for now. Things will change later on, I believe.

Answer 13

This is because all you are interested in is getting guys to pay attention to you.  Once you have their attention, you don't care about them anymore.

Yes, this is a problem, and you need to spend time talking with someone about this.  There may have been issues with your father not paying enough attention to you growing up.. who knows?  But, find a counselor or someone you can trust, and have some honest conversations.

Answer 14

dont kiss them so quickly.   try to be friends only.  

Answer 15

dont be too quick to conclusions. a kiss doesnt say it all...

Answer 16

You have committment problems....