After being apart for almost six years my bf and I are giving love another try. We was together for 7 years.?

Question

He had been in and out of jail during our relationship. We started dating when I was 13 and had a baby when I was 17. I got tired of him going to jail and moved on got married but that didnt work and now almost six years later here we are again. Im 25 now and he's 28 he keep comparing me to the way I use to be and its annoying me b/c that was then and I have changed alot I dont know what to do I want to make it work but it's not looking too good. I try telling him but he get upset and tell me I make him feel like he cant do anything right what do I do I don't to hurt him I love but Im trying to figure out if he is the one for me or if I will just always love him and that maybe Im not in love with him.........................

Answer 1

Sounds like you love what you had before the school of hard knocks visited you both, but can't find the chemistry to make it really work now. It is very common to remember our past with fond memories of people we knew, even though those people are no longer with us for a reason. One of the biggest mistakes people can make after a divorce is thinking they can go back to someone they knew prior to the divorce. They will not be able to look at you the same which leads to problems and you definitely will not look at things the same way because you have painful memories which cause you to look at things differently. Sorry, dear but this isn't going to work, and don't you deserve someone who's ready to man up and take care of his lady instead of seeing old friends often in the jail?

Answer 2

If you haven't suffered enough pain go for it.  Otherwise consider moving on in an upward direction.  

Answer 3

Tell him u want u guys to start fresh, u don't want it to be like it was when u guys where kids. try telling him not to compare u to the way u were back then because u have grown up.