After children had grown up,WIFE is on the loose .?

Question

She wants to spend her time all outdoors?Is this normal ??..how to cope with this change? We used to spend most of the time at home when not in job..We hardly meet now at anytime of the day except when we have dinner ..

Answer 1

She's just spent the last 18 years of her life raising her kids!! of course it's normal, most households the woman well is the MOM and we all know that moms do just about everything right...so now she doesn't have to do anything anymore. It's about her again...her wants, likes, dislikes, needs.    Now she can do whatever she needs to do with no worries.  I think it's very normal indeed.  Just be supportive of it, go with her plan a weekend getaway with just you two!  Then you can join her in her outdoor excursions

Answer 2

I think it's totally normal, she's just spent how many years catering to everyone else's needs before her own?! However, if it is bothering you, maybe you can talk to her about it (with understanding, not accusation) and try and find some things that the two of you can do together. I know that's what I look forward to the most when my kids are grown - getting out of the house WITH my husband.

Answer 3

yes it's normal if my kids were gone i whouldnt

want to be in doors i whould want to be outdoors

and it's more relaxing being outside and so you

can be outside because when u have kids you are

kinda useally inside so yes it's normal

Answer 4

Sounds like your wife was ready for a change. Is wanting to be outdoors the issue or is it more the fact that she seems less available for you? There is usually something that women give up to raise kids.... doesn't mean it wasn't worth it but now that they are grown she wants maybe to do what she has put off, may not be the same thing as people change but maybe just Something. Some women feel like they couldn't do things for themselves <hobbies and the like> because they were busy raising the kids and want to go do things because they are able now. Doesn't mean they love their spouse less just their interests aren't so much at home now. How do you cope? Well, go try to be involved if your able. Are you willing to let her go do her own thing? How stable is your relationship? Are you afraid of losing her? There is a trend of women leaving their spouses after the kids leave if they aren't happy <not trying to scare you but give you the facts> She still has dinner with you, that's a good sign. Plan things to do together <a date day> and don't let anything get in the way of it. Talk to her and ask what is up? It baffles me in today's society how we don't just flat out say what we mean, or ask what we want to know. I think sometimes it is because we have been taught not to cause waves, or we know the answer and it isn't what we want to hear. Good luck.