After i asked my last question about a month ago i sat down w/ my gf and told her i am giving her one more ?

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chance. if things dont start to change i'm walking away from her no matter how much of a guilt trip she tries to lay on me. she has 2 kids (4 & 8) that arent mine. she told me that she would try to make our relationship work. a couple of days ago i found a picture of herself naked in which she texted to another cell ph #!!! i was floored. then i saw a couple of texts in which guys were texting her phone telling her how hot she was. when i told of this she told me they were just friends. her ex bf (the baby's father) is in jail apparently but he still finds the time to call her at all hours of the night and last nite he called her at 2am. i've never heard of a convict being able to use the phone at 2am in the morning? yeah right!! the kids still donthave a bedtime and they routinely stay up til 11pm or 12am at nite. i have told her she needs to set rules and i have offered to help but she says she will take care of it which hasnt happened. grandma still raises the kids and my gf i feel nevfered wanted to be a parent in the first place. i love my gf. she has her good qualities but its like something doesnt seem right w/ her. but it seems like i am being used. we just recved the news just 3 weeks ago that the 8 yr old may have cancer. its been hard. i have been working ot and i have been trying to make our relationship work but it seems like she doesnt care. what should i do? i feel like leaving her noe!!! how do i leave her w/out seeming like the bad guy since her child has cancer? i have tried and tried.i want to leave i gave her a second chance and i feel like i'm just here to help her take care of her kids. she tells me she loves me but i somehat dont believe her.

Answer 1

It isn't your fault that the child has cancer, however if you have talked to your gf and she isn't willing to change then you need to go before those kids get anymore attached

Answer 2

Ok, I'm about to give you some tough love my Brother.  Anyone who is easily offended please stop reading NOW!

Stop being a p ussy!!!  WTF is your problem?  You know you are being used and you want to stay and help clean up another man's mess while she is out banging half the town?  

Are you that much of a loser that this is the only woman you can get?  These are not your kids, they already have a father.  But I suppose you want to hang around, that way when the other loser in her life gets out of jail you can get mixed up in that and end up in jail yourself.  

So tell me smart guy, what kind of career do you have that allows you to take care of her and her two b*****d kids?  What university did you go to?  You must have had one h**l of a social circle to find such a fine woman like this!  

If you stay, and you will because you are a puss y, then you deserve everything you get.  Its only a matter of time before you knock her up, then you get have her in your life forever!  But maybe thats what it takes for a poor excuse of a male like yourself to learn.

Go f#ck yourself, loser!!!

Answer 3

If you feel like you're only there to take care of your kids, guess what!?  You probably are!  This girl seems like she has a lot of issues that most guys wouldn't touch with a 10 MILE pole!  If she wants to be a s**t, let her be one.  Don't feel bad because of her kids or anything; they are not your responsibility.  You are not the one who didn't keep your legs closed and now has to pay the consequence.  

If you want to leave and not look like a bad guy, write her a letter explaining why you left.  That way there is closure on her part.  But if you ask me, she doesn't deserve it.  Leave her S****y *** and find yourself a nice girl with NO kids!

Answer 4

be careful she`will try to get knocked up to lock you in

Answer 5

if that is the case you can just leave and she will realize that she has lost a good man that was there for her. And as far as the kids go you can maybe still see that kids if that's what you wanted to.

Answer 6

If the relationship is not working for you then you owe it to yourself, your gf and her kids to get out asap.  

As far as the son with possible cancer...the longer you wait the harder it may become...keep the lines of communication open with your gf...don't allow her to think your relationship is just dandy when its not...this way she wont be surprised when you jet.

Answer 7

  I think you're in a rough spot because of the kids, especially the 8 year old.  How long have you been together?  You definitely sound like you don't want to keep this girlfriend and it would be a very bad thing for you to not leave just to be there for the kids.  Don't feel guilty about it either.  If you've bonded with the kids, ask her if you can still visit them sometimes.  You have to accept that she might not allow it.  I feel for you, but you have to focus totally on the relationship with your girlfriend and whether it's right in deciding what to do.  

Answer 8

be there at least for her little girl.... because it sounds like she is too immature to be there for her.... move out and keep a "fatherly friendship" with the young daughter

Answer 9

Just leave don't answer her calls.  I know it sucks that her kid has cancer but it really is not your problem it's not your kid.  And when it comes down to it, there is never a "good time" to break up a relationship.  You just gotta do it and move on, she don't give a flying you know what about you and the only thing she thinks of you is that she found a guy to play daddy to her children till the "ex" gets out of jail.

Move on, I am sure there are plenty of single women reading this going wow i wish i had a guy like him.  

Go find a woman that isn't a worthless piece of trash like this one, you can do far far better.

And always remember you told her what was wrong, you gave her the chance she didn't take it, your not the bad guy, just go.

Answer 10

Well, she sounds like a load of trouble, and I predict this relationship will not work out.  Apparently, she does not care for you, and does nto have self respect.  No respectable woman would do that.  My jaw dropped as I was reading what you wrote.   Leave her, go on with your life.   I understand at this point it might be difficult for you to leave, especially because the children are involved.  Just because you want nothing with the mother, doesnt mean you cant still be apart of the children's lives.  You can stop by and see them for awhile, or take them out if you would like.   You are under no obligation, but blood isnt everything, and I am sure these kids love you.   As far as you being with her, dude, get checked out for STD's and leave her.  Its not flirting at this point, she is cheating on you.  

Good Luck, and I wish you all the best.