After my last question, I need to declare that I thought about divorce him already but?

Question

I live alone in another country, I have no one else, we are buying a business together and at the same time our house... how can I divorce a man that I so compromised with.... I really feel trap. But do not misunderstand please, he is a really good person (OMG am I saying this of my husband) and I love him, it is just that at the same time I feel I hate him... because I am not happy with him. So, do you think it is possible to get divorce when you are attached in so many other ways with your husband, besides I would hate to break his heart, even though mine is already broken.

Answer 1

try and work out exactly why you're not happy with him.

If it is that you don't love him like you should your husband, then get out...

presumably you must have loved him when you married him? well, that love morphs into a deeper, more meanful love.

All the original ingredients are there but it's like there're 3D now.

But hanging around, thinking that love will grow or the situation will magically change, it doesn't..trust me, it doesn't.

All you're doing is setting yourself and your husband for a lifetime of unhappiness.

and god forbid you bring children into this..DON'T DON'T DON'T

Can you go back to your own country? do you have family there?

It really doesn't matter whether you can or not, you are setting both of you up to a miserable existence.

Even if he loves you at the moment, trust me on this, it will not help matters in the long run.

But first, you have to work out why you're not happy.

Go to a counsellor, a doctor you can talk to, but not friends. They are too close and will naturally be on your side..that doesn't help.

Answer 2

yes you can get a divorce no one can make you stay married do whats best for you

divorce should only be used if everything else you've tried hasn't worked i would try talking to him about it and trying to make it work and if nothing changes then get a divorce

Answer 3

okay, i learnt this lesson those who you love most you hurt most and those who you do love most are those you hate but love. sounds crazy, it is crazy but true. if you care about someone so much then talk it through and get help to sort things out but if all fails then move on and get a divorce. have you tried temp separation to see if it neutralises the issues you have between yous, maybe it will let you see freshly what is wrong and you both can work it out. separation can also show you how close you are and will bring you strongly together if it is meant to be, but can also give the space to see if its right for you two to divorce.