After you got married, how long did you wait to have kids?

Question

I was just wandering because I am supposed to get married in a year or so. I want to wait at least a year so we can have time to ourselves.

Answer 1

got pregnant 10 months after being married. we were just "seeing what happens" not taking anything too seriously inregards to trying to have a baby, but it happened pretty quick, and we were thrilled!!!

we had been together for almost 8 years at that point though, so it was almost like we had been married for at least 5 years. lol!!

we are now the proud parents of a handsome 9 month old!!!

married 2 1/2 years, together 9 1/2 years.

Answer 2

Im not married, but I would wait for 2yrs

Answer 3

We were open to a baby right away, but our son wasn't born til two years later! So we did have some time to adjust to marriage first, since we hadn't shacked up.

Answer 4

You're on the right track to wait at least a year to have a child.  This gives you and your spouse time together to enjoy your new status as a married couple and to have free time together to do things and perhaps take a nice vacation.  

When you do start a family your lives will enevitably change and you will have a new baby to tend to.  This is necessary and a labor of love, and something so special to share.  

But you won't have the time and freedom of a couple without children.  That's just a fact of life, but your love and closeness should grow and flourish when you do make the big move.  Just don't rush into it.  Get used to being with each other first.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Ideally I would wait 2-3 years, so we can spend time together doing things like traveling, etc. and also try and get in a better financial position. However, I think for some people it can be quite different. Especially if you get married at 40 I would probably not wait as long as there could be a chance of not having children if you put it off for 2-3 years.

Answer 7

we were married just over 2 years when our son was born.  

Answer 8

We are waiting for at least 2 years.  We want to, well, have to, get a bigger house.  No room for a baby in this one!!  We aren't waiting until we save money, cause no matter what, you will never save enough!  I think that once we are established in a new home, we are going to start trying right away!!

Answer 9

Our first was born a couple months after our first anniversary.  Her brother followed 2 years later.

Answer 10

Definitly wait at least a year before you start trying to have a baby.

I've been married for a year and a half. I really don't know when we're going to start trying for a baby --- sometime after we finish remodeling our house how we want it, pay off my SUV, etc.... that's the plan anyway. :)

Answer 11

only you 2 decide that

Answer 12

Im too young to get married but i plan on waitin 2 years. The first year is to travel the world but the second is to try to get out of any debt before hand.

Answer 13

i've never been married, never had s*x, any of that. wait as long as you want. when you feel comfortable or when you know you're ready, go for it. talk to your spouse about it. decide together. whatever you do, it will all work out. i wish you two the best of luck!

good luck and God bless!  

Answer 14

well me and my fiance are getting married in October then me and him are going traveling we want at least a 2 years without kids we are only 26 and 27 so there is plenty of time. Goodluck...  

Answer 15

We had two children within 17 months of getting married.  It was crazy but the best thing we could have done.  Both kids are now in college, we are both in our early 40's and having a blast!  

Answer 16

Not having any.  Ever.  Don't need them.  We've both always felt this way.

Answer 17

We waited 8 years to have a child.

We wanted to have some fun first, pay off our student loans, and be absolutely sure we were ready.

For us it worked out perfectly.

Answer 18

got pregnant 2 months and 10 days after getting married--oops!

Answer 19

I got married in May and we have been trying since last year. Still hasn't happened yet. Waiting a year is a good thing, especially if you want time to spend together. I have heard that after kids life changes dramatically.

Answer 20

2 years