Age difference between kids?

Question

My son just turned 3 yesterday.. I'm not really sure if I want another child or not.. Me and my boyfriend been together for 3 yrs, since I was 3 months pregnant ,he is not my sons father so he has no biological kids...I'm 23 and my BF is 26. He says he doesnt want any well at least not now with eveything going on.. We plan on moving and we're trying to get finacially better than we are now.. I was wondering if I wait until my son is atleast 5yrs or more would that be bad because of the age difference.. I have 2 sisters one is 8 months apart(different mother) and the other is about 4 1/2yrs apart(same parents)I grew up with my younger sister because we lived together compared to my other sister that was with her mother..We see her all the time but it was always different... What are the pros and cons if I wait at least to my son is 5

Answer 1

i think it would be better to have them 5 yrs apart.

easier on you and your son will be able to realize that

he has a lil brother or sister. then he can play the

protective older brother thing.

im an older sister so i know how it is.

when my first baby brother was born i was almost 4.

then when my second baby brother was born i was 13.

now im 15 and my mom is expecting again. nd i love

the age gap. i get to be protective nd im older so i feel

more involved.

just my opinion nd experience.

i deffiently think itz okay!!

=)

p.s.

hope my lil statement/experience thing helped!

Answer 2

My doctor actually suggested that I waited until my son was 7 or 8 before having another baby since that is when your body finally is back to normal from being pregnant the first time. (So she tells me at least.) My son's 2 and an half now and I'm 6 months along with my second child. I decided not to wait since the longer I waited the more of a generation gap they would have.

My mother has a brother that is 20 years younger than her, but they get along great. She doesn't do everything that he does of course cause he is only 25 or so, but they have a lot of common interests that they can talk about.

Another one of my friends has a little brother about 10 years younger than him. He has really learned a lot about helping out with the baby and everything, but they didn't bond as much as he did with his other brother. (2 years younger)

Answer 3

you are so young age is just a number i know someone who has a child 22 and they younger one is 12  so theres 10 yrs betwen the 2 kids  i personal think its best anywhere between 4-6 yrs apart im 3 1/2 yrs diff to my sibling but i have a 12 yr old and i would of loved to givin him a sister or brother but because my health i can no longer do this which is a shame as i have had a miscarriage and then i had him  but yea  its really up to you when u feel comfortable and you know its feels right good luck

Answer 4

My kids are about 5 years apart, it was wonderful one was

starting kindergarten when I came home from the hosp. with

the other one.  I had all day with the baby and when the school  child came home she and I had some time together

and she had all my attention. so I think 5 or 6 years is wonderful, And also get your money in place first so you and

your partner will not have to struggle to take care of the family

and you can enjoy your children now and in the future

good luck

Answer 5

You are so young and have plenty of time to have more children.  I would wait until you are both ready to have more kids.  Otherwise, it will become a tremendous strain in many ways.

Answer 6

My first and second are 2 years and 9 months apart.

My second and third are 4 1/2 years apart.

If you wait til he's 5, he'll be in school shortly thereafter which means less childcare costs.

But, then since he will be in school, he won't get to see his little brother/sister grow up as much.

My first two both boys, are very close.  Then my daughter was born and they're great with her too.  I didn't want them like 1 year apart, but I also didn't want them 10 years apart.

You have to figure out what works best for you and your situation and go for it!

Answer 7

I had my first son at 23 years old and i wanted to have anthor one but I just didn't. My son is 6 1/2 years old now. I am pregnant with my second one and when this baby is born my son will be 7 years old. I wanted 7 years to have another child but I think that was great for me. My son is really happy that he gets to have a sister/ brother. He understand alot more and he reads to the baby and talks to the baby and i love that.

If you think you want to wait follow your heart and want there is nothing wrong with a little gap. Don't be like my friend that had a nother child when her son was 14 years old, she only had 4 years to go and her son was off to college now she has to start all over again.

Answer 8

Well if your kids are 5 yrs apart then you'll only have one at a time to put thru high school or college..lol..Your 5 yr old would be in kindergarten or first grade by the time the second baby was born so that would give you at least 6 hours M-F to be with just the new baby. The cons I could see would be the two kids may not be as close sibling wise. But then again they might. My first two kids are 3 yrs. apart and I am pregnant with #3. This baby and my now youngest will be 5 yrs apart and my third and first children will be 7.5 yrs apart.

Answer 9

My two are 13 yrs apart and they are as close as can be.

I have 6 brothers and two sisters and the ones that I am closest with are 7, 9 and 13 yrs older than me.

The years separating the kids doesn't have an effect on how close they are as adults.  How they are raised, to be supportive to each other and loving and kind is what makes them close.  I shared all my growing up experiences with my younger brother and I can't stand him.  I really have a hard time being in the same room with him.

It is all relative.  Don't let a larger age difference deter you from having another baby.  My 13 yr old was a great help when her little brother was born.

It can be wonderful.

Good luck!

Answer 10

well Hun i would wait till you are financially ready for another one and are married to have another kid.

i have 3 kids. 8,3,and 1, and my 8yr old adores my youngest 2, they play real good. they spend a lot of time playing and watching TV together, my 8 yr old reads stories to them. and he is a great big brother he loves his sisters and is protective over them. tells them no don't do that and little things like that, but not mean or pushy or anything like that. they will be fine. and having another kid with out being financially ready just puts more stress on mom and dad.