Aghh. I hate being so shy!?

Question

I hate being shy around people!

When, I'm around people I know and I'm comfortable with, I'm pretty much myself. But it takes me awhile to adjust other people. However, when I am with a person I do know, but not personally...it tends to get a little awkward talking like myself when I'm trying to hang out with a new group. Cause they usually stare at me like I'm stupid.

I don't blame them, because I'm sorta loud and my vocabulary is off (verbally). :\ I tend to not think about my words...so, I tend to not make sense sometimes, and it makes me feel obnoxious and stupid when those people stare at me in disgust...or annoyance. x__x It just makes me feel bad. My vocabulary also gets tangled up in my jokes,

so that also makes people stare at me like I'm stupid.

So, they'll usually leave me out or I'll follow them around without saying anything. Unless, they talk to me. >__>

Honestly, I don't really know what to do. :[

Answer 1

hi ;)

Answer 2

hey girl, i know how you feel, im in the same situation as you. All i promised myself is to take baby steps, and take it slowly. In example, start by saying hi to the person next to you in each class. Then ask questions like when does this class end, or anything that requires simple answers. From there try answering questions from the teacher. Afterwards, try saying like so what are you guys doing this weekend, or just say something like "This class is long", all these little things count, making you better for the day after tommarow and so on. Remember that its just people! Do not let your mind trick you by saying that "what if they do not like me", or "what if they think im this", as they cant read your thoughts in your head, you cant read theirs either! So do not jump to conclusions. They will either have respect to who you are, or otherwise they can deal with their problem by themselves. Start off slowly though, it will acutally seem more sense, instead of just blabbering from one day to anthor. Its alright, they can be having the same problems as you, since they only talk to their close friends, there scared of talking to someone new. They just dont show it as much, because they have a friend. Its all in the mind! Do not feel like an outcast, we can all fit in. Just try being nice, and yourself. Soon you will break the silence =] and gain new "social" skills.

And remember that you cannot please everyone, so if there is some person you cant really relate or talk to, just talk to someone else, doodle, or send some text messages, its alright. Not everyone clicks, so just apperciate the new friends that do click.