Agnostic how do I tell others?

Question

Alright I recently found I'm Agnostic and I've told a Couple of my close friends but I'm worried about telling my real Christian Friends are there any suggestions how I can tell them because I'm worried they will be upset with me being agnostic and not want to speak to me anymore so I just need a little help on what to do about it. Look Please nobody bash me about my choice I'm just here for answers not critcism.

Answer 1

this isnt the right section... u shud try to put it in friends & relationships

Answer 2

Do you NEED to tell them? Do you feel it's really necessary to advertise your beliefs? If you're asked flat out, then I would be honest and say that you're agnostic, but if you're not specifically asked what you believe, it's no one's business except yours. Frankly, do you even really want to keep friends that would have a major issue about it? If they're true friends, they won't care, and if they DO see it as some kind of obstacle that they just can't get past . . . f*ck 'em.

Answer 3

Been there, done it. I let go of my Christian beliefs in my early 30s, and so I commend you for having the guts to question things at your age. (I'm assuming you're either in your teens or 20s). I even went on to write a book about my atheism, and it's pretty popular, but I *still* struggle with telling people. I've learned from experience, however, that people really don't mind. I have some Christian friends who are a bit shocked, but they know me and they know I'm not some kind of evil devil worshiper who sacrifices goats. They know I'm still the same, nice guy I've always been. And I just tell them it's a personal decision and I'd rather not argue about it. And surprisingly, they leave me alone.

However, I should add a caveat: These people I'm talking about are usually in their 40s and quite mature. So if your friends are teens or 20s, I'd scope them out gradually, and perhaps ask them simple questions. You might ask them, "Do you ever question your beliefs?" And see how they respond. And then ask, "Have you ever met any people who don't believe in God? What do you think about them?"

It's very possible you'll need to keep your ideas to yourself, at least for now, if your friends seem like they'll bash you and try to convert you back.

Stay strong, and keep questioning, and you'll become comfortable with who you are over time. Good luck!

p.s. Email me privately if you want to talk more about this. I've helped a lot of people with this kind of thing.

Answer 4

Kyle, if your Christian friends are really your friends all they'll do is try to convince you of the Reality of God.  Is this really so bad?  If they stop talking to you they were probably never really your friends.  As a teen I once thought I was an agnostic, was accused by many of being an atheist and finally learned that I was just trying to be 'too smart' for my own good.  I soon found my way again and now understand that God is real.  

H

Answer 5

Just tell them! If they get mad and stop speaking to you... well, they weren't really very good friends were they?