Ah! What should I do

Question

I'm 14. I like my Brothers friend alot. Only problem is, he's 21. I know it may never happen but he always comes over to mine and we hang out. We talk all the time on MSN too. He's a computer nerd to I sometimes make the excuse of "Ah my computers broke, come over? :)" and he always does. He doesn't show off, doesn't smoke and is very clever. I'm quite mature for my age which I suppose helps the situation alot. We have alot in common. We always have a laugh when he comes over.

We're quite close. He tells me everything. He had a girlfriend and they broke up so many times and he told me everything about that. Iv'e also told him some secrets of mine and he's told me some. We're really close friends. I kinda get the impression he likes me too.. y'no the little giveaways? Well I see them now and again.

What should I do though? Will there be a chance of me and him getting together when i'm a little older? I don't wanna rush into a relationship now because I know it would just fall apart, and it would be so much better if I wait.

Ah! I just don't know what to do. Is he far to old for me? Or can we just forget about the age? This isn't just a stupid teenager crush, I really do like him. Iv'e tried not liking him, just forgeting about him and it's kinda worked until he comes over to see my Brother and we start talking again.

I don't want to stop talking to him. Also, my Mum and Dad even know I like him! But they don't mind at all, they're actually happy that I like someone that's not a drug-taking s*x obsessed chav. Ok so I kinda egzagerated but you know where i'm coming from :)

Answer 1

Coming from a guy he probably knows you like him but, he might just be playing along with it to be nice etc. I'm sure if a younger girl liked me and 7 years apart i would most likly do the same as what he is doing.

Answer 2

sounds like u have a good head on your shoulders,,very smart,to not rush into things,,and if it is meant for the both of u to b together when you get older you will,n if not i think u will havae a very good best friend in him n thats were love really starts out as friendship..keep it growing,,peace

Answer 3

if he started a relationship with you that would that would make him a child abuser regardless of whether or not it was consensual.

Answer 4

u'll can just b frends cos age matters

Answer 5

:) If you wait till you are 18 at least, and he is also ready to wait till then and date you, I don't see why it shouldn't work out.

I married my husband when I was 22 and he was 30. The age difference doesn't harm our relationship at all.

Answer 6

Tell him how you feel because nothing will happen unless you tell him.

you never no he could actually turn round and say he likes you as well and then it will all go from there.

Age is just a number that does not matter but if he starts pressurising you into doing things even tho he sounds like he wont then id be worried.

He sounds like a nice guy and then hint that you are getting are probably there but to make sure of it ask him and then you will find out for sure.

Will not get anywhere unless you ask hunny =]