Ahh. I trusted my sister now what?

Question

I trusted my sister and told her that I thought I was pregnant, and took a pregnancy test, she knew I am active with my fiance, (I am 17). She told my mother, (her fiance told me). My mom sat me and my fiance down and had a talk with us about how were young and she doesnt want us making any spur of the moment decisions..My mom hasnt said that my sister said anything to her. I have told my sister everything! I am so pissed at her...btw I am not pregnant...my sister has 4 kids and shes only 23 (had her first at 16),

What should I do? It feels like I cant trust anyone..I dont even want to see my sister or talk to her. How can I get over it..its not like I can change the fact that I told her anything, how do I just forget it, and I know not to trust her again.

Answer 1

yeah i made the mistake of trusting my sister too.

i really want to be able to trust her.

it's ashame really =[

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Answer 2

Just get over it and know that you cannot trust your sister with any information. You can just tell your mother it was a scare and that's it. With your sister being 23 with all of those kids, maybe she wanted to bask in someone else with not so good news. This way it takes the light off of her.  

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear this. One of my sisters & I are not getting alone right now either. Same thing here. I can't trust her and she is so insecure that she takes it out on my. She is always jumping to the wrong conclusions and thinks of crazy stuff in her head. I know we won't stay mad at each other forever because we do love each other. I just try to keep telling myself "what if something happens to her and I would have to live with being upset with her for being this way." I know it is hard to forget but losing trust for your family is very painful.  

Answer 4

well she probably wants to be there for you, but also thought your mom would be a better candidate since she had her first child at 16

dont worry its ok, you will get over it eventually...just talk to her

Answer 5

Whether you see it now or not, your sister did the right thing.  You are only 17 and she knows what it is like to be a teen mom.  She cares about you and that is why she did it.  You are way to young to have a baby.  Get on birth control ASAP and have a baby in a few years when you are done school.

Answer 6

I’m shocked it took your sister’s suggestion you were active to prompt your mother to warn her underage engaged child about this – especially considering your sister’s history. How many clues did she need??

Maybe you could consider that your sister wanted you to make smarter choices that she did so you could have a chance of building a better life for yourself, and she thought the only way to get the message through to you was to go through the one person who’s still legally responsible for you.  

Answer 7

Well, you had a pregnancy scare.

Well you can talk to your fiance about it if you trust him!

Confront your sister about telling your mom.

Good Luck!