All I want out of life is love. Is that normal?

Question

Really, I don't care if I have the crappiest life ever as long as I'm spending it with the one person who loves me with the same intensity that i love them. Its all I want. Normal or no?

Answer 1

you have a purpose and that is great, i personally believe that "a man needs a woman like a fish needs a bicycle" but i also have my odd goals in life.

Answer 2

It seems like such a profound feeling when you are young...but after some years, I can't say that I would pursue love so arduously. I should have finished college and found something that I love to do...and than focused on finding someone special. But I let a consuming relationship send me in the wrong direction. I followed him instead of pursuing my dreams. Six years later, I was on my own and deeply skeptical about it.

It's a cruel reality, but you might think that person is going to love you forever and with the same intensity...but time ebbs away at it and there are some serious ups and downs. It's a struggle...and even when you think everything is great, they still might walk out on you. Don't let another person own you in that way. The best kind of love is one where you can leave if you want to, but because you love them so much, you stay. If you don't take your life into your hands and make something out of it, you might be stuck with someone because you have nothing to fall back on. Or you could be left with nothing when the relationship fails.

What you feel is normal when young...but years of trial and error, love and love lost...kind of changes the way a person views the romantic side of things. That's not to say that it doesn't feel great and seem to fill all the lonely areas of your life...it just doesn't stay like that forever. The honeymoon phase ends and than it's hard work.  

Answer 3

normal; may not be practical, but normal...

Answer 4

no. that means that there is something horrible or wrong that is happening that makes you feel that you need someone to comfort you.

you are going out of reality which is not normal when love is all you want in this life.

Answer 5

Normal, yes. Perhaps a bit naive, however. Here's what I just wrote to someone else who asked a similar question about "love":

We create thoughts about someone which and keep thinking them until we convince ourselves we are "in love" with that person. We do all the things that lead to permanency: dating, getting married, etc.

Then we start thinking different thoughts about the person, and we keep thinking them until we convince ourselves we are "no longer in love" with that person.

Love, like all other feelings, is a choice. That is clear and has been known for as long as there have been people who have "fallen in" and then "fallen out of" love.

We like to think that "love is forever" and that if we find the right person we will live happily ever after. Given the 50% divorce rate that has held true since at least the end of WW II, how is it possible we can maintain such a fantasy?

But we do...because we want to believe in love!

Answer 6

i think mine will be the best answer. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A NORMAL PERSON

Answer 7

Everybody has something they want out of life.  Love is one of humans most basic needs and the most important thing, is to live your life for yourself, so you'll get what you want out of it. I see nothing wrong with letting love rule your life, whatever makes you happy is all that matters in the end.

Answer 8

Why be normal.  s***w being normal.  Normal is an impossible stereotype seeing as it's a matter of perspective. Instead of seeing all of your actions as normal or un-normal, think of them as sane and insane.  

If you see life that way then party on.  I might not see it that way, but why would you care what I think?  You shouldn't, not on this topic.  

Good luck on finding love.  

Answer 9

It can be scary as you can become so dependent and needy on that person and should they leave you you will either stalk them or kill them or kill yourself or end up depress forever. That is a lot of pressure for one person to live up to.

Answer 10

Everyone is different.

Normal, yes, but I think a more satisfying question to ask is why you feel this way. What does love mean to you, and why do you crave the feeling?

Answer 11

Well most people care about material possessions and their level of comfort in life (even if they reject those whom they love). So no, it is not normal. Is it understandable, and there is nothing wrong with it though, so if that's how you want to live your life, then that's great! I have some similar goals in life too, so it isn't completely abnormal.  

Answer 12

**** normal. love is the only right answer. the only way to escape a life devoid of any purpose is to fight for another life.

Answer 13

For a lady, yes.  I hope you find it.