All my friends are guys now?

Question

I have never had a guy friend that hasn't been attracted to me. We will all start out as friends, then a while later, I figure out they like me. It is starting to get a little hard now though. I tell people how I feel about them, so they don't get the wrong impression. But I wish I could just have a guy friend that I could hang out with, without having to worry about people getting hurt.

Is there anything I can do? I don't dress like a s**t or anything like that either.

Answer 1

There's really nothing you can do. When it comes to people feelings and how attracted they are to a person, it's hard to change that. What will change is whether he accepts the fact that you want to just be friends and nothing more. It depends on the person. Some guys might be ok with this, but most likely guys are going to want to be more than just friends with girls. However, there are exceptions to the rules. There are some guys who can just be friends with their girl pals, but this appears to be rare.  

Answer 2

I understand what you mean. In high school I thought it was odd that most of my friends consisted of guys, and of course unwanted or wanted attraction comes on later. It's difficult to even just stay friends without a thought about you and the person running through your mind. It's true. Eventually, I realized that I might not be doing a good thing for myself by hanging out with guys mainly. But the thought of hanging out with my girlfriends felt annoying. That's why girls don't get along in high school - because they're all so much alike and they don't even know it. I would say just try, try a little or try a lot, to surround yourself with more girls. It will actually mend the tension with your guy friends. I'm sure you will figure it out.

Answer 3

I like one of my guy friend's and we started to go out, it didn't work out and we be come enemy's and it didn't turn out pretty. Just force on the important stuff and try not to think or act on and maybe the feelings will go away.Just be careful, you don't want to be enemy's trust me.

Answer 4

yeah... eat at Burger King regularly..

Answer 5

ahaha I'm in the same boat!! My friends are generally guys too.  All you can do is be honest and open and make sure your friends know that you expect that from them in the friendship too.

Eventually you should be able to find a few guys who you can just be friends with who are cool with you being attractive and still just be friends with you.  There are actually some people out there who can be friends with people regardless of what they look like.

It's good of you to care about not hurting people, but once you've been honest about your feelings, the rest of the "not getting hurt" part is up to them.  Worry will only bring you down and shorten your life span so do the least ammount of worrying possible!

Some things are more difficult in life for pretty girls but on the whole I think it's a lucky condition :)

edit:  guys are NOT all only being your friend to sleep with you.  When you find a true friend, it goes deeper than that.  You sound like a nice person and there are bound to be some people who will realise that and be attracted to you as a friend because of it.  Guys need good friends too.

Maybe try to find a guy friend who is very attractive himself, some guy who can sleep with whatever girl he wants.  Therefore there's less chance that he'll see you simply as a potential s*x partner since he already has that part of his life fulfilled easily, and maybe he will even come to you for friendly advice about girls just like you like to get friendly advice about guys!  Why not? I did this and it works really well.  One of my best friends in the whole world is an ex, he's really gorgeous,  and s*x isn't an issue for us because he's not desperate for it from me like a lot of other guys are.  We both actually value our friendship itself.  Hence why we still chat and text and joke around when we're not in the same city anymore... that's a friend.

Answer 6

Guys only accept the "friend" role if they can't have s*x with a girl right away. Being their "friend", they stay close to the girl, get to know her, and hope that sooner or later she'll let them sleep with her.

It's an old trick.

No guy wants to be a girl's "friend".

Every guy wants to sleep with every girl he gets close to.

That's the truth, no matter what anyone says to the contrary.

Answer 7

darn, you remind me of this girl i stopped hanging with because she rejected me over our stupid useless friendship etc...saying she really likes me too but in a friend way....lol it brings bad memories...anyway i can promise you that you will never find a guy trying to just be friends with you...listen good because what i'm about to tell you is about to make sense : if were like you want us to be (just friends with girls, we would not be interested in girls) meaning we wouldn't be able to reproduce and we would die and become exstinct...you don't want that do you...anyways can you email me and tell me why you think the way you think? because i'm still a little confused about this girl who rejected me and why she only wants to be in peace with everybody ? and why she seems like she doesn't want to even try giving it a chot or something ,you know? hope i helped

Answer 8

You should tell him how that you think, being that you've been friends for a while, it will be better for you AND him, if you guys stay friends. Because if you date, and some things might start to happen, like you argue and end up having a bad break-up, will lateron ruin your friendship with him.

Answer 9

I'm in the same situation... I really want a guy just to talk to. I guess that some girls are just not meant to be friends with guys... but hopefully it'll happen one day lol

Answer 10

i agree with osweet.

Answer 11

you sound like a very pretty person. thats just the way it is. most guys are stupid. suckers 4 love and all that. theres nothing you can do. if you find out they like you tell them that you dont feel the same way. or just whenever you are talking just bring up how you like being single and dont want or need a boyfriend. then they might get the picture.

like whenever i hang out with a girl that looks good i would LOVE if she liked me. but if she doesnt and we are just friends its ok she doesnt know what shes missing. i have other things that need my attention.

Answer 12

I hang out with mostly guys to, they're just so much funner, and I have had a few occasions where they started becoming interested in being more than friends. I think if you notice strange feelings developing it's best to say something right away, you know, before things start to grow stronger or anything gets awkward betweem the two of you. If ya'll are such good friends, talking about feelings shouldn't be a problem, i know it never was for me, and it really saved our friendship .

Answer 13

Thgis is a hard time, on your part maybe you can express to your friend that you ONLY want to be friends, but don't scare him off. I'm a guy and when you like one of your friends that are girls it can get messy. I'm shy about crushes so they never find out but it can be hard Hope I helped. Goodluck

Answer 14

Me too !!! I want someone who doesn't say I'm s**y. I had a boyfriend who never called me "s**y". Who said I was "cute". And I thought.. for the first time, I found someone who loved me for who I am INSIDE , but he left me. So idk. But you can't really do anything but to just wait for a guy friend to like you as a friend.

But right now, my best guy friend is my ex boyfriend (not the one i was talking about though.) We aren't into each other anymore but we are still friends.  

Answer 15

Find a g*y guy.

Answer 16

I have alot of guy friends too, its sometimes good though because when I was in high school when stupid girls would call me out or watever mean girls like that do they would defend me and make the mean girl look sooo stupid!

Answer 17

Sorry as long as you have guy friends they are going to want you. don't worry about hurting feelings though guys are guys they are going to try when they get the nerve and if they are real friends they will still be there when you turn them down but don't get mad because they are still going to want you and may try more than a few times