All the sisters here in rmadaan - serious question?

Question

What happens when a dude gets over controlling.

We aint married, he was a potential marriage prospect, but he is so controlling and decsening and always want to make me feel c**p. He doesn't take the fact that I an a revert seriously and doesnt let me make my own decisions. He acts like my mum, and when I tell him I dont want to be controlled, he says well then you are not a match for me

:S

What the h**l, what can I do?

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Answer 1

DUMP HIM IMMEDIATELY. He is not worth it.. He must be Wahhabi.

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Answer 2

if he's treating u like that, then he's not worth it!

Answer 3

Well, my husband is also controlling, overly protective and jealous to the point that I'm forbidden to make friends, be it male or female.  I don't mind though,because I don't get along with other people, and I know he's being controlling, because I'm a revert, and I need protection from him in order to survive.  But I don't know if this person your talking about has your best interests at heart.  I would get your brother or father to investigate his family, and his background to make sure he is a good match for you.  It's in a man's nature to be overly protective and controlling of his women.  ALLAH(Subhanna wa ta'ala) has given men physical strength to protect women, and women weakness and no strength so she can be protected and focus on raising children.

Answer 4

give a good kick him  

dump him  

Answer 5

leave him...no man can take away a woman's dignity.  

Answer 6

A man who needs to control a woman so much has some issues he needs to deal with!

If you aren't even married yet and he is like this just imagine what the future would hold.

Make it clear from the start. If that is his end answer then its his loss sister.

Answer 7

dump !

Answer 8

If things are taken to the next level, aka marriage, you will not be happy as you're already coming in terms with certain behaviors from his behalf that you do not like, and make you feel like c**p.

No not to hold onto this one.

Two of the most important things in marriage is communication and understanding. If these two do not exist, your marriage will doom to fail.

Good luck. :)  

Answer 9

Find somebody else.

Also, change your ugly a$$ avatar,thank you.

Answer 10

obviously he is not the right guy for you.  believe me there are plenty of decent muslim guys out there.  why would you settle for such an obvious loser?  men who are controlling are such because they lack self esteem and the only way they can build themselves up is to knock other people down.  marriage to such a person would be a miserable mistake on your part.

Answer 11

i sit on face and squish his pee brain!

lollzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.!

Answer 12

I don't think things would work out if you two are different in this way!

You want not to be controlled...and he has a natue o that kind...

if you have the potetiel tochange and help abot being controlled so OK other wise...he is not a match for you!

Answer 13

u deserve better i think,

if he treats u like c**p, then

i think u should look for

someone that will appreciate u,

not change u...idk how close

u r to him...but if it was me, i

wouldnt be able to spend my life

with that kind of guy...

just follow r heart =)

good luck

=)=)=)

Answer 14

If this is happening before marriage what will he do once you are married....? Don't let no man control you!! If I was in that situation I would move away and find another.

Answer 15

leave him hes not worth it

Answer 16

when my parents were going through a "i hate you" phase, my mum felt the same way about my dad. they were so close to separating until she really exploded at him and he realised in the end. but my dad's a bit soft, but your guy seems like he might get violent if you confronted him.

id say, for ur future and ur safety, dont ask for marriage or cancel the engagement.

Answer 17

Hi..no one have any rights to dominate anybody be it woman or man coz no one is superior to creator. Everyone deserves respect and woman tht too. Men who show their straight and power to woman by harassing and abusing will go thru severe punishment frm God coz He will not let anyone under His protection to get hurt.

He is not ur match..tht s the truth. If he wants to remain arrogant let him be u move on wit ur life. U will wit god s grace find the ideal man. Believe it.

Answer 18

Call the cops on him and file a restraining order

Answer 19

salam sis

seriously u shouldn't ask this question .. dump him already ! if this guy is over controlling then he is not the match for u !! i hate this type of person .. u r better of without him !