All things & people are there for me.But no satisfaction in life till now.Pleasegive me the necessary solution

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am a 26 years old lady,married.i m Sngle child.I m an MBA(distnction holder.)Right from my known age(sa around 5/6 yrs, I ve the followg problms :a.My father always discourages me (bfor the relations) and for anythg whatevr i tell durg gl discussns,he replies very instantly as"i know everythg.u shut u r mouth.(bt 2 my mthr he nvr tells anythg as sch.) (b) My mthr always has the dominance nature(ie)like whatevr she tells,others shud agree/accept,otherwse she ll get angry.(shoutg like somethg even givg cursings).Bt if they both talk 2gthr,reg anythg they ll compromise in a proper way without any problem.(c) Now i m married(3 yrs).Have a 2 yrs child.Hsbd's fmly(includg hsbd) is of a nature that only his fmly & its reqrmts has 2 b fulfilld always.(Dont care abt any other thg).

(D).Now due 2 all these thgs,(all those people&their char's),i suffer a lot.Only my chld gvs me a satsfctn.My parents tell me that theres nobdy 2 supprt them&thrfore,they bth ll die

20 hours ago - 3 days left to answer.

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22 minutes ago

They bth ll die wtht me/my fmly's(hsbd) help at any cost.

Majorly,my parent's feelgs(currently) is tht whenevr they need/ask for money,i shud ask my hsbd and give 2 them.But they dont express it directly 2 me instd,they tell often 2 me lke "if v dont have money,who ll take care of us?"

Simlrly,at my husbd's fmly side,all(3 membrs) treat me as an out sider.Bt 2 some extent(70%),my hsbd is nt like tht.Furthr,if i ask any help (financlly) 2 my hsbd,for my parents instantly he replies "what shall v do for that?.They ve 2 tke care of themslves.But if they fall sick,we can go &attd fully at physical levels.Thats all'

But he does anythg for his parents .

Another major fact is tht, when bth these groups(My parents & my hsbd's fmly as a whole) see togthr/join tgthr at any occasn,

they both talk very good(both the groups does'nt know abt each other in real).

What has 2 b done for this?.

Answer 1

The only thing you can do is talk.  Talk to your husband & tell him how you feel.  Talk to your family.  They are adults & need to take care of themselves & NOT guilt trip you into giving them money.  My daughter os your age, with a little boy.  I would NEVER dream of asking her for money.  I wouldn't ask my parents for money either.  They should be working for their own money & living within their means.  Buy the same token, your husband should understand how you are feeling.  You don't forget your family just because you married him, just as he obviously has not forgotten his family.  It is natual for him to be closer to his parents than yours, just as it is natural for you not to be as close to his parents as you are your own.  I too was an outsider in my In-law's house.  (That part never got better in my marriage.)  Marriage is never easy.  You and your husband have to build your own family, your own lives, seperate from both of your parents.  You can't ignore them, and would not want to, but you have to live your lives together, and seperate from theirs.