Almost 14 yo in a timeout??

Question

k so i have a 13 yo and she has been acting up a lot recently. I finally had it when she told me i am a stupied idiot and then she cussed so i decided to try something new bc when i send her to her room she finds something to entertain herself there So i lectured her for 10 mins and explained how her behavior was wrong (she was already crying by then) I told her why i sent her to the corner and she MUST MUST stay there for 14 mins and 14 mins later i made her tell me she was sorry and why and she appologised and ever since she has been acting better and when she acts bad i warn her bout the corner and she usually stops!!

IS THIS A GOOD AND APPROPRIATE TECHNIQUE

(I DONT SPANK)

Answer 1

well, it seems to be working

its not cruel or anything, so yeah, i guess it is an ok technique

Answer 2

if it works then go for it.

Answer 3

show her role moddles to follow not pasific pepole but say on t.v you find people who care for the enviroment or animals. they are people who look and dress nice and you think woah when you see them. my mum showed me people and you like them instantly because they look friendly and their happy with life diong good things for humanity. maby it will inspire her.

Answer 4

Well, I suppose it's a good technique, but not for a teenager...

It may work temporarily, but as soon as she realizes that she doesn't HAVE to stay in that corner (because there is no way you can actually force her to sit there), she's not going to listen to you anymore.

My best advice would be to take away things she values. (TV/computer). As she gets older, she will pretty much actually have to listen to things like that. Also, keep in mind that you're going to want her to come to you with deep secrets in the near future. So, you may want to both start treating her more as a friend, while keeping the mother figure, and start treating her as a young adult.

(Did you know that 52% of teenagers, ages 15-19, said that they have had s*x at least once? This is something to think about....)

Answer 5

My question is, why are there things that can entertain her (other than books) in her bedroom?  She shouldn't have a television, phone or computer in her bedroom because she doesn't need them in there.  Those sorts of things need to be in a family/living room where she can be monitored and supervised.  I haven't used "time out" on my 11 year old for quite sometime though.  I set rules and boundaries when my kids were small.  They have to earn television/computer/phone/video game time, they aren't just handed to them.  If they haven't behaved during the day they don't get their hour of computer/television/videogame time and they are monitored and supervised.

Answer 6

I guess it's working, but how long can you keep that up?  At some point, you need to prepare her to be an adult.  I'd try to take away privelages or computer, tv, movies, out with friends or something like that.  Maybe some real world consequences.

Answer 7

i really think that the corner is for children under the age of 8.anything older than 8 you should ground them or take items away for a certain period of time. if the corner worked for you then so be it. i mean you could also have her sit at the kitchen table and think about what she did and why she is sitting there being punished then when she is ready to apologize and explain to you why she was being punished then she can come and speak to you.