Almost 18 years old and really want a baby?

Question

Don't tell me it's just motherly instinct. Don't tell me how bad of an idea it is. I want a child more than anything in this world. I'm not looking to fill a void, I am loved and am happy in my life. I'm about to start college. I don't have a boyfriend... so you can tell me all you want that I need to get over it. I have wanted one for a while now. I baby-sit about 6 out of 7 days a week. I'm never stressed. I enjoy spending hours with children all the way from newborn and up. I constantly try to baby-sit to be with children, so I don't just keep thinking about it, but I don't have enough clients. (I already have 19 families I baby-sit for) Please tell me what I can do to get over it. Or what I can do to take care of it. I am more than responsible and have a job. Just give me some sort of advice.... (I even love all the crying, spit up, sleepless nights, etc etc)

Answer 1

That;s really lovely!

however it's a huge responsability!!!

I feel the same way but only my case is different i'm still in my teens and pregnant. Im very scared and happy at the same time. All i can say is waite till you get married and finish school. Thats what i;m gonna try to do... yup.. finish school and pray to god that i can still have the chanse to go to college. Enjoy life now i know once my baby is born i won;t be able to do the same things. waite and keep babysitting.. it;s what you like to do!!

Answer 2

maybe you can try becoming a pediatrician

you know they love and help children when they're sick

but stick to baby-sitting in the meanwhile

Answer 3

Sounds like you're made to be a mommy! I would get a few years of college under your belt before trying. Just so you're financially stable to take care of your little one. Some women, no matter how old are just born to be excellent mommies. =D

Answer 4

Actually there is alot more responsibility involved when you do become a parent...more than what you get when just baby sitting.  Being a mom is the best job in the world, but to speak honestly to you...you miss out on a lot of things too.  

You've already said it.  You are young.  You have alot of living to do before you need to be tied down.  Focus on your schooling right now.  Get it all together, wait for the perfect guy...get married, and then you will have a firm foundation to build a family on.  

Answer 5

Babies are nothing but trouble.

Answer 6

I'm not gonna say your to young and immature coz it sounds like you got your head screwed on.but wat i will say is wait till your in a stable relationship don't just choose any guy because if he does want this child as much as you do he will in your life forever even if your apart or together. you will get there one day just be patient chick and keep doing wat your doing and everything will fall into place maybe sooner than you think.

it did for me when i was your age i felt the same way and now ive got my own home a steady job and ive been with someone for 5 years and engaged to get married next year and planning a baby just haven't mange to get pregnant yet.  

Answer 7

I had a son at 17 that I gave up for adoption...it was all about the baby's best interest, I wanted my child to have the best life he could possibly have, and though I wanted him more than anything, I knew that financially, I wouldn't be able to provide for him.  I was even with the father for four years after he was born.  Now I am pregnant with twins at 24, and let me tell you, I'm still worried to death about the finances of children.  I want them to have the best life that they can have, and that takes more money than you can imagine.  The only advice that I can give is...do it on your own.  Don't do it now while you're still living at home, with a college career ahead of you, because you can provide so much more for your child with a degree under your belt.  I wish that I had actually finished my degree before now...but if you want to be the best mom that you can be (and it sounds like you already have the mentality to be one), then do what you can now, while you're not pregnant, to provide the best life for a child.  Hope this helps.

Answer 8

while you are in college, think about what you can do to raise this child.  with prices today it would be unfair to him.  then when you get a good job pick out someone you think has good gens...and have at it...

Answer 9

Please,Please.

Don't get a baby when you are going to start college.

Just finish college then you can get a baby.

Answer 10

If you are starting college, it is not a good time for you to have a baby.  Continue to baby sit if you want to be around children.  Being with your child 24/7 is a lot different from baby sitting.  Try to remember it is not always good to get everything we want when we want it.

Answer 11

If you don't want to be 'told' anything that would be of use to you, advice wise, then you have no business wanting a baby - it comes down to maturity and you sound way off the mark to me! You have your whole life ahead of, college, university, a great job, a beautiful home, nights out with friends - it'll all stop once a baby appears, at least for two years! Baby sitting is a whole different ball game my friend - you know full well that at the end of the night that baby goes back to mum and dad and your single life carries on - you are far too young to have a child and i suggest you speak to those who've had kid's that young - if they're honest they'll tell you how they wished they'd waited until they were older - and wiser!