Alone forever?

Question

I have an issue with temporary things. I desperately want to have someone in my life that will never leave me, but every time I think I have that, I find that I am terribly wrong. I don't even mean romantic love, neccesarily, although that would be nice.., I'd just like to be loved unconditionally forever, which is how I am towards everyone, but it seems that nobody is willing to offer that to me. Please don't tell me to find religion or 'come to jesus' or whatever. Someone once told me that I was born alone, and that I'll die alone... is that true? If it is, I'll find a way to deal with that in my head, but I really hope it isn't.

Answer 1

Life is a series of friends and relationships that come and go, and if you're lucky a few special bonds that never break. Call it chance, call it fate, call it whatever you want. Just always remember that just because you haven't found your soulmate yet dosen't mean he dosen't exisit, all it means is that he's searching for you just as hard. And you probably will find eachother as long as you both keep looking. Just because you have any close friends, dosen't mean there aren't thousands of lonley souls who would love your kinship and gladly give theirs in return. If it was an easy simple thing to find people who loved you unconditionally, then unconditional love wouldn't be so meaningful to you, and you wouldn't want it so badly. What makes unconditional love meaningful is that the people who share it with you are not a dime a dozen, but few and far between. think about it, and keep your hopes up. It's all how you look at things.

"Two men looked through prison bars, one saw dirt, the other stars."

Answer 2

Let me try the philosophical approach.

What you want does not exist, it's a fallacy, a fantasy... Furthermore, in order to be happy with someone else, you must first be happy with yourself.

You are "desperate" to find someone to have in your life is because you feel lonely, the reason you feel lonely is because you are not happy with yourself.

My personal experience is that once I found myself, I'd rather be with myself than anyone else, to the point that when I watched the movie Cast Away, I longed for that solitude and wondered what Tom Hanks was complaining about.

I go to the store as late at night as possible to come across as few people as possible. I've driven hundreds of miles in dark desolate highways, no radio, no sound, just me and my (insane?) thoughts.

This is not ego or self love, I am my own worst critic, I am very hard on myself, but in order to share yourself with another you must first find inner peace and satisfaction.

I sure as h**l wasn't born alone, the doctors, my mother, the nurses were there. But if I have to die alone, so be it. There is an old saying that goes; "better off alone than in bad company".

Speaking as one who has had more bad than good company I'd have to agree. Who needs to be croaking and have someone crowding you and leaning over you telling just what you don't want to hear at that time.

In my opinion society has made being alone something to be frowned upon, if you are alone you are strange, but this is not true. Because there is another word for loneliness, it's SOLITUDE, there is peace and introspection to be found in solitude, as a result you will know yourself -and others- better.

You will come to know your instincts, you will better be able to tell who to trust and who to be cautious of, you will learn to shun abrasive and destructive people.

Read; Illusions, by Richard Bach. It's widely available, it's a small book, -143 pages- and easy to read, but it is a life changer. And no it's not about religion, it's about friendship, and introspection, and life and the turns life takes, and love.

"The bond

that links your true family

is not one of blood, but

of respect and joy in

each other's life.

Rarely do members

of one family grow up

under the same

roof"

Answer 3

Well every Christian should love you unconditionally as God does to all people. So you should always have many people loving you.

And if you want the strongest unconditional love look to God. Like it says in Jeremiah 31:3 "I have loved you with an everlasting love" In this verse God was talking to his people and since he created all, everyone is his people. So God loves you unconditionally.

Truthfully you were not born alone but you were born with Satan. This is because Satan = sin and it says in Romans 3:23 "For ALL have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God." This means that everyone, even babies, are born with Satan and have sinned. If you do not want to die with Satan you do not have to, but (I know you did not want to hear this but it is important) you must accept Jesus as your personal Savior. Then when you die you will go to Heaven.

Just remember God has always loved you and always will. If you want to accept Jesus as your personal Savior, I will show you the basic prayer we use in CEF to help people along. Remember you can have your sins forgiven as it says in I John 1:9 "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."

Dear God,

I know that I am a sinner and I ask you to forgive my sins. I believe that you came down and died for our sins. I call you into my heart so that you may forgive my sins.

Amen

Answer 4

love your self 100%....when you do then you will be atracted to some one else that loves them selves 100%.

when there is nothing to hide, then you will know the true compatibility of the other person

we are all alone, but when we love our selves, we see we are just like other people, and then we will never be alown.if  we only see love then who is there  to be alown

i love being alown...less hastels

Answer 5

PLease stay away from online dating..horrible horrible answer...anyway it could be the attitude that you are projecting.....you didn't give much detail about your background...have you been hurt by someone in your past..(ie a family member , father , mother, a boyfriend friend) whp has made you leary to be close to people? you may have put up a wall and not even known it..... I tend to do the same thing sometimes I figure that if I don't let people into my life that I won't get hurt...could be worth looking into..

good luck,

XOXO <3

Answer 6

i really dont think anyone was born alone and die alone... i dont believe that for a second! you had love surrounding you when you were born, dont you have family? they love you unconditionally, or should! and my friend, why do you have a hard time with 'religion'? i myself believe in god, i dont go to church every sunday but i HAVE to believe that he exsists and all my loved ones that passed on are waiting for me and i will see them again, why is it so hard for people to feel that? that is one person who DOES love you unconditionaly. maybe you need to love yourself first then other people will to, ive heard that lots

Answer 7

have a little faith girl. i'm currently single and looking too.

Answer 8

Unconditional love, you get from parents,

(when you're very young), ... and from pets.

You sound like a very fine young woman, and

you will find some-one to love, but don't ever

expect it to be unconditional.

Maintaining a relationship takes work.

Answer 9

Be patient. Find a friend, consult in them. Put yourself out there in the world. Not so much that you get hurt, but just to kinda see different types of people. You will not die alone, as long as you are patient- but I don't mean sit around and wait for something to happen. You have to go looking for it. As long as you find a life-long friend you will not die alone. Good luck!

Answer 10

I have been feeling the same way lately ! So I went to the Library & borrowed a book called "The Secret"By Rhonda

Byrne it is all about attracting all good things into your life so

go & borrow or buy it & we can both let each other know what happens,you never die alone as long as someone loves you

Answer 11

Online dating

Answer 12

i had the same problem i wanted a girl that loved me for my hol life you know 2 of us for all time no cheating love for real bla bla bla ......

( i am not a guy who can't get girl but ..... its hard to find that kinda of girl)

pfft i loved a girl  about 2 years ago for real i thought gone be in love for eva bla bla bla ( i was a idiot to think that i realize after i had a break up with my girl)

i just want a girl then act like love her and  do nice things for a week then dump her in 3 weeks ... (

i will tell you something almost everyone is thinking like you but just  

they just can say it oon real life that you wane be with a ... for eva

a lot of us already know that can't  happen you g2 do it solo