Alright, How can i help my 15 year old son??

Question

Two years ago today, My 15 y/o son was the witness of his best friend getting shot by his father. He's been in his room ALL day, Nothing to eat, just laying on his bed. His friend was shot because the father & mother wanted to make him watch the parents..eh...you know. They were sentenced to life in prison, and the father threatned to shoot my son if he told. My son told, the police came and arrested him. How can i help him?

Answer 1

Ask him to be open with you if he ever wants to do something about the situation, even if he is afraid of asking you. OR just be straight with him and just ask what he wants to do about it

Answer 2

The only things you can do is be there for him, try not to yell at him, be patient. He's only fifteen you know and thats a big deal. Talk to him...have a heart to heart. Cook hsi favorite meals, help with scoolowrk every once in awhile.

and since his father is crazy like that, you might ant to go int the witness protection program jut in case when h gets out of prison or jail, he might come afer him. good luck.

Answer 3

I'm a little bit confused by the story, but I am around the same age as your son and I cannot possibly imagine how horrible that must have been.

You should, as the others said, get him some counseling. Tell him how much you love him and ask him if there is anything you can do. Ask if he would like to be alone, if he says yes let him be. When something traumatic happens it can be good to just sit in silence and organize your thoughts.

There isn't much you can do to ease his pain. If your family believes in God, try to get him to pray or do something proactive. As unfair as it seems, everything does happen for a reason. Someday your son will be able to remember without hurting as much. Tell him that day will come, and when it does his friend will be looking down at him with a big smile on his face.

My heart aches for him and your family. I hope everything turns out all right. My prayers are with him.

Answer 4

If you haven't gotten him some consoling, please do so.  It is hard enough for an adult to witness that; never-mind that he was only 13 at the time.  Tell him that you love him and that if he wants to talk about his friend, that you will be there to listen.  

Also, ask him if he would like to go to the cemetery to place flowers on the grave.  Sometimes, that helps too.

Answer 5

Tell him you love him. Tell him you will do whatever he thinks he needs you to do. Tell him that you are so sorry this has been a part of his life but you are so proud of him for making it through the last year.  Tell him that someday it won't be such a powerful memory.

Answer 6

This is beyond your control. The best thing for your son is to get him a counselor.

Answer 7

of course you need to get him some counseling but try to talk to him if he will talk. ive had friends that have had bad things happen and on the aniversaries they get depressed and moody. its just a thing that they do and there isnt anything anyone can do for them. its best to just let him know you are there if he needs you and that he did the right thing by telling.

Answer 8

He has suffered losing a friend, and I myself have experienced the same (I am now 17). My friend ws killed when we were 15. It's hard to do this, but you need to give him a bit of time. I know that for me, having a memorial for him helped, because I realized taht a lot of people cared about him, but he was in a better place, and would always be looking down on us. My parents tried everything, but I just needed time. I still miss him greatly, but I will never forget what a great friend he was, and he is my guardian angel, along with my grandfather. They will always watch out for me together. He just needs to remember his friend! All the best, and I'm sprry for his loss! :( xoxo

Answer 9

I'm so sorry that your family is having to deal with such a tragedy. At least he's in prison, so your son is safe.  But I'm sure that the emotional scars will last a long, long time.  I assume that he has already been in counseling, with such a traumatic event.  If not, then it's probably past time for him to talk to a counselor.  Your son did the right thing, but I'm sure he's probably still upset about his friend being shot.

If his friend was killed, then yes, there is some mourning and grief to still work through.  If he was just injured, though, he may feel some sort of responsibility for not being able to stop it -- guys get this mindset that they should have done SOMETHING if they had been smarter/faster/more perceptive, etc.  Either way, if it has affected his school work and his relationships with other people, then he needs some professional help.  

Answer 10

get him counseling quick!!!

Answer 11

just let him be. he needs to time to himself in this situation. but if he stats depressed for more then a week get him in counseling