Alright i have a question about adoption and et cetera?

Question

alright so this person i know had a baby and the dad didnt want it at all and threatened her and it was just a mess. she gave the baby up for adoption. its been over a year and a half and now he's saying he wants it and he's been talking to lawyers. this person lives in pa and the baby is now in a different state. the boy claims he never signed his rights away but he wasnt on the birth certificate at all. is there any possible chance he could get this baby? hes really not a good father figure , mind you hes 18 and he dropped out of school in 10th grade, has been in juvenile detention more then once, and is currently unemployed. please share your thoughts on this

Answer 1

So in your mind, someone who got into some trouble as a teenager automatically disqualifies them from being a parent for life?

I wonder if you ever got detention...sent to the principal's office...got caught smoking or drinking.  Are you married?  Were you a virgin when you said "I do"?

No?

Then you can NEVER be forgiven for your bad choices, by what you are saying about this child's father.

How narrow-minded.

Answer 2

{{{{{{{{{{{Sizesmith...it's "putative" father registry, not punative.

punitive Definition pu·ni·tive (pyo̵̅o̅′nə tiv)

adjective

inflicting, concerned with, or directed toward punishment

Putative

pu·ta·tive (pyo̵̅o̅t′ə tiv)

adjective

generally considered or deemed such; reputed

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"Directed towards punishment".  The father probably doesn't see much difference.

Answer 3

I pray that the adoptive parents do not lose their baby after a year and a half.  When we adopted our son, almost 20 years ago our attorney did all that he could do to find the biological father so that he would have a chance to either want the baby, or sign relinquishment papers. He put an ad in newspapers all over the country- and I believe he waited 30-60 days and then severed the rights of the bio dad.  If this dad is deemed unfit, then no I don't think any judge would give him the child, however who knows.  I will pray for this adoptive couple.

Answer 4

Some states have a law called the punitive father registry that is designed to prevent problems like this.  In my state, Arkansas, a father has 10 days from the date of the baby's birth to register at the county clerk's office, which forwards the information to the state, to contest any adoptions.  That also happens to be the amount of days after consent forms to adopt can be revoked (10 days after birth, or when the forms are signed, whichever is later).  You'll have to check the laws where the baby is born.  Many attorney's don't bother checking on this law, and it is being challenged.  Dr. Phil had a show on it recently.

Answer 5

Sizesmith...it's "putative" father registry, not punative.

punitive Definition pu·ni·tive (pyo̵̅o̅′nə tiv)

adjective

inflicting, concerned with, or directed toward punishment

Putative

pu·ta·tive (pyo̵̅o̅t′ə tiv)

adjective

generally considered or deemed such; reputed

See the difference?

Answer 6

He is is not on the birth certificate and they prove that he thought the baby was his and they posted it in the paper he probably will not be able to get the child back.  From your post alone he knew he was the father, he did not come forward.  If they posted the adoption in the paper "looking" for the birth father it is all legit.  Now with no high school diploma and has a record, plus with no job.  It is highly unlikely that the court would give him the child, they would deem him unfit.

Answer 7

If the adoption has been finalized and he was not listed on the birth certificate, then no, I do not believe that legally he can annul the adoption, though a lawyer would be the best person to advise him.

Answer 8

Bottom line. He didn't sign and the AP's didn't bother to see if was an issue. They gambled and now they have to face reality.  If he gets a really good attorney than he'll probably get his child.  This is another example of why adoption isn't a good thing.

Look at the bright side. In a few years the child will not remember the AP's at all and the child will grow up with his biological dad and not have the trauma of adoption. Tell these AP's to be "selfless" and to not use the system to block what is truly in the best interest of this child.