We have been married for 10 months- together for nearly 5 years. He is smart and well read especially in world news. We have the same opinions about religion, politics and Family. He's seems like a liberal guy, but has some very old fashioned ideas about family and women. Also is known to be VERY happy friendly outgoing to people who know him in a passing way.However he can explode angrily (never in a physically abusive way) But can be very intimidating and controlling. We've gone to counseling and have signed up for more - helped a lot, but the older I get (almost 40) the less I want to wait and see if it gets better. This is Hubby #2 I don't want a divorce. I left him once when we dating, for a few weeks. I felt like one of those women I thought i COULD NEVER UNDERSTAND because if it's bad enough to actually make you want to leave... Why go bacK? But I did, then married him a year later, and now almost a year later I'm feeling unsure. I really do love him. Also I have Two teen age daughters, who feel about the same way,. Their biological Dad is a big part of their life and is WAY too easy going and not strict AT ALL. This has caused some problems . They know they can always ask Dad, chances are, they'll get what they want. I don't mind being more heavy, They still love me and keep coming back to Mom. But I honestly worry about how they will value themselves in relationships. How can I vest deal with this while in counseling.. To reach him ? I don't expect a total change, but some way of compromising
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