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Although I love many things about my husband, he is not a nice enough guy and has no clue about what I mean.

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We have been married for 10 months- together for nearly 5 years. He is smart and well read especially in world news. We have the same opinions about religion, politics and Family. He's seems like a liberal guy, but has some very old fashioned ideas about family and women. Also is known to be VERY happy friendly outgoing to people who know him in a passing way.However he can explode angrily (never in a physically abusive way) But can be very intimidating and controlling. We've gone to counseling and have signed up for more - helped a lot, but the older I get (almost 40) the less I want to wait and see if it gets better. This is Hubby #2 I don't want a divorce. I left him once when we dating, for a few weeks. I felt like one of those women I thought i COULD NEVER UNDERSTAND because if it's bad enough to actually make you want to leave... Why go bacK? But I did, then married him a year later, and now almost a year later I'm feeling unsure. I really do love him. Also I have Two teen age daughters, who feel about the same way,. Their biological Dad is a big part of their life and is WAY too easy going and not strict AT ALL. This has caused some problems . They know they can always ask Dad, chances are, they'll get what they want. I don't mind being more heavy, They still love me and keep coming back to Mom. But I honestly worry about how they will value themselves in relationships. How can I vest deal with this while in counseling.. To reach him ? I don't expect a total change, but some way of compromising

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  1. you need to worry about you, life is to short to having to keep worryingwhen the next blow up will be. took me 20 years to figure that out, my wife would blow up especially after a couple glasses of wine. anyway like i said be happy live life if it gets bad leave. as for your ex of course he will spoil the girls he may feel guilty for the divorce, you sound like a great wife and mom, i wwouldn'tworry about the girls sounds like you brought them up right.

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