It's sort of a long story, and please don't think I'm being stupid, just give me some good old advice.
I live with my boyfriend and have for quite a while. We're both still young so he of course still lives with his mom. It doesn't bother me. At first it was half with his family and half at my apartment on college campus.
Last year he lost his dad, who was the closest person to him in his house. Then, six months later, he lost his house to a wildfire. Then, six more months later, he lost his last grandparent. Both people died of cancer. So it's been hard on him. I've always been there for him.
However, now that things have settled down, his family is now renting and not taking care of Grandma anymore. And now, his mom has reverted to not caring about her two boys. My boyfriend gets it far worse though. She doesn't seem to care about him at all.
I get soooo angry at her because of it. We were supposed to move out a while ago but because of different things coming up, we aren't getting out of here for several more weeks. And I just want to rip her head of on certain days. The anger has just been built up to the point where I am tired and it hurts. I just wish it would go away, but she's just so bad. She will get money because of the house burning and then she'll spend half the week with her "secret boyfriend" which is obvious to everyone, gambling. And she'll make tons of money. She won't get a job, she won't take my boyfriend along, she won't even talk to him. He's mad at her but I think he still wants her love so bad he puts it behind him all the time.
Someone please help me learn to relax and not be so angry. She isn't a bad person, she just drives me crazy when she treats my boyfriend so horribly. Is there anything I can do to stop being so mad and just make things seem insignificant? The anger is starting to leak over to my boyfriend and I'm afraid it'll ruin what we have...
P.S. I know he's the one, so don't tell me to leave him. Ok?
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