Always been a "Robin" and not a "Batman" life?

Question

I'm 19 years old and I finally realized that I am way too dependent on others. Its almost as if my self esteem and self worth is based on the crew of people I an with and what others think of me. Im not a follower but at the same time i am not a leader and I know I could be. Its like Im comfortable being the "Robin" or other guy because Im scared to step out on my own. I know this might sound crazy but now that most of my friends have turned against me i gotta face my biggest fear and thats standing on my own and I honestly dont know if I can do it. Is this something that guys deal with? What can I do to change this about me?

Answer 1

Come on man - haven't you ever watched Teen Titans?  Robin is the sh*t in teen titans!  

Of course the greatest thing about life is - you don't have to tell anyone you are going to change - you can just do it and be who you want to be.  You don't have to worry about people taking notice.  

If you really feel that you can't do it in your current situation you can trying leaving.  Normally I would say leaving doesn't solve your problems but if you can leave and go somewhere and be the other person you want to be then you maybe you can come back and be that person at home too.

Answer 2

Im sorry, i dont have a good answer but im the same way!!! im 17 almost 18 and not ready to be considered an adult because im not ready! youre not alone!

Answer 3

I think it's common for a 19 year old person to feel this way. Just remember that recognizing this most likely means that you also recognize the need to be stable, which will prove very very important as your life progresses.

Also, know that you'd be suprised on how many people are probably "dependent" on you. A survey I once read in some magazine showed that most people have the need to be needed. Plus you are only 19, you just started your life on your own.

Finally, I am a comic geek so I must bring up a couple points (sorry).

There have been three different Robins in the current Batman Continuity.

1. The first Robin was d**k Grayson. He eventually, after years of being a sidekick, went out on his own (due to a fall out with Batman) and became a kickass character named Nightwing. While Batman initially thought Grayson would return by his side, he ultimately chose not to and remained as Nightwing, which tore Batman apart (which is interesting because Batman showed no emotion when Grayson left). Nightwing is probably the most popular character in the Batman Comics (he has his own comic as well).

2. The second Robin was Jason Todd. Todd was ultimately killed by The Joker in the famous "Death In The Family" storyline. Batman is heartbroken once again and even sheds tears.

3. The third and current Robin is Tim Drake. The only real interesting thing I have to say about this one is that in the past six months the comic series "Robin" has outsold the comic series "Batman"

So while you may feel like a "Robin" character, just know that it is just temporary and in the end "Batman" can't be Batman without you.

Good luck my friend!

Answer 4

yep...i have the same prob. good luck....i just spend all my time on yahoo answers..lol...jk...hopefully everything goes back to normal, and i always think to myself, if they were really my friends, they wouldnt break our friendship for something small or insignificant

Answer 5

Now you are being given the opportunity to stand alone and find your own strengths. We all have to learn from our own mistakes. Go ahead and stand alone. You can do it. We all can do it. Give it a try. The resources to help you through will appear in different places and from different people. You're never alone. Even if some old friends leave. Become open to new ones by just strengthening your own personality so that you actually have something to give.

All kinds of people outside college also could assist but be strong. Only take as much as is needed and find your own inner strength. We are also never alone because God is within our hearts and being alone in this world can be a very fulfilling experience. And from that you learn how to interact properly with others. Whatever good is in you, give it to others without expecting anything in return.

Answer 6

hi i understand what you mean, there is no exact solution for that except for your own will to lead, just try to communicate more, talk to people more, not just friends but strangers too, and also be nice but not too nice... i mean try to smile to people more often even strangers but the ones you see around more, talk to neighbors... be friendly to all... you'll slowly learn the way of life and you'll turn into batman even before you realize it and most important thing don't run away from any responsibilities...